We are planning to have about 200 guests at our wedding I would like to invite the ladies in my office, but not my Director or Manager. Is it appropriate to leave them out or should I not invite anyone if I don't want to include the Manager and Director?
2007-01-11 04:15:20 · 22 answers · asked by kissyface 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
all of them unless you want to hurt anyones feelings.
2007-01-11 04:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even if you're friends with the ladies in your office, your superiors might get the wrong idea (or the right one?) that you don't like them. Which wouldn't be good.
Perhaps invite them all to the reception (not the actual ceremony)? I know you'd rather not invite your director or manager, but if they're the ones above you then it'd be a bad idea to leave them out on purpose - they'd find out, since it's such a small office. It's everyone or no one, unfortunately.
You could invite the ladies to a bachelorette party or a wedding shower or something, and not to the wedding, if you really want them involved somehow.
2007-01-11 04:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding and it is totally up to you to invite who you want to invite but keep in mind, unless there is a mutual and known dislike between you and them you may want to invite them.
Inviting 4 out of 6 will likely cause a lot of tension in the office and with such a small work environment that can be extremely uncomfortable for all parties. Also keep in mind, if you work beneath them, it's petty, but they can make your work situation hell for a while.
With 200 guests you won't even notice them if they are there and on the bright side they'll get to see you looking and feeling great that day if they even decide to come!
2007-01-11 04:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite all, including the manager and director. Why cause hard feelings among a small staff?
If you're having a wedding that large, you shouldn't need to spend much time with any one person, so what is it gonna hurt to do the polite thing
2007-01-11 04:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are etiquette rules to deal with here.
If you invite ANYONE AT ALL from work, you MUST also invite your direct supervisor. (I can't tell from your wording who your direct surpervisor is.) If you can't stomach that, then no work invitiations can be issued.
With such a small group, you would probably have to invite all 6 people to avoid any one or two people being left out in the cold. Also, don't forget that you must also invite significant others of all these people (if they have someone).
2007-01-11 17:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say invite all or none. Excluding the manager or director isn't going to make you any friends. Inviting them will keep office harmony, and they may just decline anyway.
2007-01-11 09:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these people are someone that you would consider friends enough or like enough to go out with then invite them otherwise etiquette says that you do not have to invite anyone that you would not spend time with outside the office. I am sure they would feel the same way.
2007-01-11 05:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Office that small - I'd think it's all or nothing.
You could have a shower with your friends if that would work - but don't invite them and not your bosses to the wedding!
2007-01-11 04:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be more professional to invite none of them. To invite your coworkers and not your manager seems insulting. Let everyone know you are getting married and because of your budget you can only invite 200 of your family and closest friends, so unfortunately they will have to settle for the stories, videos and photos.
2007-01-11 04:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole the Makeup Artist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either invite them all, or do not invite any of them.
Personally, I would invite them all since you work in a small office and it is your day to shine, so why not share the happy occasion with your coworkers?
2007-01-11 04:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It your wedding and you do what you want to do if you want to invited ladies in your office great not the director or manager that fine because they have to understand that you keep it different between coworker and boss different.
For me I invtied all my coworkers and my directors and even ceo and manager as my family... been there for me than my other family that would be different than yours.
You do what you want to and if director and manager got mad for not invited them to your wedding remind them that you are my director and my manager so i have to follow the rules for this company. smiling.
2007-01-11 04:21:26 · answer #11 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋