Okay... I really care about my boyfriend, and yes, I've kissed him many times. I little bit a Frenching thrown into the mix as well. I'm 14. He made a promise to me to not go farther than I'm comfortable, and I will never go farther than French kissing at my young age. I don't want to.
Well, I told my younger sister (trying to have a sisterly bond), and she said she wouldn't tell my parents. Well, today she blurted it out to my mom for no reason, right in front of me... and now my mom is all worried and nervous and stuff about him coming over, about me spending time alone with him...
How can I let her know that she doesn't need to be worried? What can I say?
2007-01-11 04:14:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's met him and everything already. The reason she's scared is because she was a pretty wild kid and she had sex at age 14.
2007-01-11 04:23:36 · update #1
Sisters. Don't you love them??? I have two older sisters and I've been through it myself. Nothing like stirring the pot. But you're at the age where things are getting interesting for you. Just explain to your mom what you did and what your intentions. It's more like how you say something instead of what you say. Ex: "I know you're worried but don't be, I don't want anything to happen either"rather than "Don't you trust me?? Nothing's going to happen"...that way you avoid confrontation and more "questioning and worrying" on her part. But that won't actually stop her from doing that; just an easier way to explain.
2007-01-11 04:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, nothing! No matter what you say your mother has an image of you and your boyfriend taking it further. Right now the best thing for you to do is let your mother guide you as a parent. Show her that you're a responsible teenager who's not willing to do anything that will disrespect yourself or your family. At 14 years of age, you can't really say if you really care about someone or not. Right now you're at the early years of dating. If it makes your mother feel better don't push the issue of him coming over or you spending time alone with him. You need to show your mother that she can trust you.
If by chance you got upset with your sister and got verbal you need to go apologize to her and your mother. By you showing anger you showed that in some ways you were wrong for the kissing action you shared with your boyfriend. You apologizing isn't saying that you're wrong, it's saying that the situation is upsetting to your mother you do realize however you're trying to make it right. The best thing you can do is keep the lines of communication open with you mother and continue being a big sister to your sister.
2007-01-11 12:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your Mother. She was a young girl too at one time. Tell her that that's all that has happened and that that is all that will happen. You sound like a pretty secure girl, and you know what you want, keep it that way! Your Mom will be happy to know that you've got it under control and you aren't taking it any farther than kissing right now.
2007-01-11 12:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stress, your mom will get over it. she just needs time to realize that her lil girl is growing up. sit down with her one day before dinner or something and tell her "mom, it was just a kiss. nothing more. i am responsible and not going any further b/c i realize i am to young to deal with any consequences of those actions. but i am old enough to know that i like him. and i want to be able to talk to you about these things, so please keep and open mind so i can continue to share with you instead of feeling like i need to hide things from you." If she goes off, let her get it out of her system. A few days, maybe a week, and all will be good, and you will be back to frenchin your guy behind the school
2007-01-11 12:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by kt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just said here.
She may not be entirely comfortable or assured but that is all you can offer her now.
Let your mom know that you have already made a decision to not be sexually active at this age. If you are courageous search online for the abstinence pledge, print and sign it; that may help as well.
I hope this helps :-)
2007-01-11 12:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you just said (" He made a promise to me to not go farther than I'm comfortable, and I will never go farther than French kissing at my young age. I don't want to.")
2007-01-11 12:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by k®ì§ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother won't have any thing to worry about as long as your not alone in your bedroom. invite him over to your house to meet your mom and dad and to watch a movie and eat some popcorn. your parents should be comfortable with that.
2007-01-11 12:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a parent's perrogative to worry. You'll understand when you are older.
2007-01-11 12:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom u dont ahve to worry. im only 14 and i would never go that far. im too smart
2007-01-11 12:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But .. Did she tell your mom that your boyfriend is your brother ?
2007-01-11 12:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by stonehandman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋