he is a year younger than me and a virgin and i am more experienced than him. What do i do? I told him that waiting would not be a problem for me because that is something that i respect about him and if he wants to wait for the right person and if over time i am the right person for him then we will. its just the more we hangout and the more we foreplay the more i want to go all the way how can i convince him and get him to go alol the way without pressuring him?
2007-01-11 04:14:23 · 34 answers · asked by alicia_mcguire16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations girl!!! You have the greatest situation on your hands. Relax and enjoy the time and when it is the right moment it will happen without any questions or doubts in either of your minds. And then you can mold him and teach him to be exactly like you need him to be. How wonderful...I am so envious!!! Good luck.
2007-01-11 04:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by evilcharm1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, this happened to my boyfriend and I, only opposite. I was a virgin and he was not. We would mess around and then when he brought up going on the way, i would say no and he would get so frustrated. I couldn't understand why and I thought he as just being a jerk about it. But he wasn't at all... he was just frustrated that I was giving him mixed signals.
Eventually I did lose it to him at about the 4-5 month mark in our relationship. and we are still together. I didn't want to lose it to him if he was going to break up with me or something. I had to really trust him. and one night I decided I really trusted him and loved him.
Often we think this is a girl scenario, like boys have sex all the time without regard to morals, or hurting people. but really that is a rare breed of human in general.. (male or female). Most people treasure sex, as i'm sure you do, you just happened to have done it before him. my guess would be he is probably just making sure he really wants to do it. so give it some time. take into consideration how long you all have been together. try and have a talk about it you know, in the middle of the day, not when you all are messing around. make sure you really love him.
good luck
2007-01-11 04:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him drunk. Just kidding -sort of. Tell him not to overrate or over think it. If you're in a loving committed relationship then there should not still be a negative stigma attached to it. Ask him why he wants to wait. ...Wait a minute? Um, this is a heterosexual relationship right? If you are over 16, and he is too, and this is a commited relationship that has been going on for say at least 3 months and he still doesn't want to have sex then your boyfriend is gay. i dpn't say that to be mean but to be honest. Any guy would not reject sex at that age or situation. Otherwise, give him time to grow up.
2007-01-11 04:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by KitKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to be or do something that he doesn't want to, you must respect this, but if he feels the need so to speak let him induce it, but a view is a view, and if this is by choice on his part then well....but if you want it and can't get it then you may sooner or later move on. But if you love him or like him so strongly, your ambitions will wait for him, and you will be there for him and him only. In other words your horniness will have wait, before all other concerns. That makes me sound like a virgin doesn't it? Damn. Oh well..
2007-01-11 04:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why?
I don't know how old you two are and it doesn't really matter, other than you might be too young to be doing anything sexual. However, since you did not mention it I will assume that either you are legally old enough. If he doesn't want to go all the way see if there is other things you can do for satisfaction. There are lots of things to try that do not include intercourse.
2007-01-11 04:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're kissing and in the middle of foreplay and all that, get really close to him and ask if he's ready to go farther with you. If he gets uncomfortable and says no, then pull away a little and let him know you don't want to pressure him.
2007-01-11 04:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When your petting, tell him you have something to show him.
Tell him it's not like real sex, then give him a bl-ow -job (oral sex.
Suck his brains out then tell him the real thing is like that but much better.
If he questions you tell him Bill Clinton said ( on the public record) that sucking a mans dick is not sex.
Hey guys trick girls all the time so don't feel guilty.
2007-01-11 04:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it flow naturally...if it gets to a point where he pulls away then just give him some time and space because he isn't ready yet but if your deep into foreplay just keep inching toward the next step and if he doesn't stop you then drive it home.
2007-01-11 04:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw yourself on to him to fast but slow enough so he can build confidence. You could show him by taking his hand and show where you like to be touched, and you slowly touch his private spot or you could just ask him if he like to do it. It depends on the person sensitivity when it comes to intimacy. Good luck.
2007-01-11 04:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur doing foreplay...then he knows what he wnats..its just that he's afraid to admit it...u only have to start it..or initiate or whatever..if he's a virgin..then it would be a lot of fun to teach him..hahah!..he'll never forget you...ahahaha..TRUE..and you'll never know..he might be a bit shy at first..but he might also be a tiger after a few "lessons"..hahaha!
2007-01-11 05:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ hOnEy ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋