Going out next week with a girl that I really like... I'm shy and need ideas for convo plz help!?

Question

I'm only 15 and I've had one proper girlfriend in my whole life. I've been getting on well with a girl recently and am close to asking her out. We're going to the cinema next week as mates, and I don't want it to be a disaster. I really need some advice on the kind of things to talk about, as I am often guilty of long pauses and then asking too many questions. It would be great if some of you could give me some advice :)

EDIT: Yeah I may be thinking about that 'HDreadybutnotelly' but there's more to getting a relationship going than snogging isn't there! I mean we're not going to be in the film for the whole time. I appreciate what you are saying though lol.

Thanks for all your help so far, its been fantastic! :)

Answer 1

Yeah kid, talk about anything that comes to your mind, most importantly BE YOURSELF!!! I am 23 and I can't stress that enough, girls love guys with confidence and who act like themselves all the time. Don't let her try to change you or you change her. Talk about school, and work, what you want to do in life and what she wants, your families and friends, gossip, movie stars and movies, books, the list is endless kid talk about anything and don't worry about boring her because she will be just as nervous and as long as you make her laugh and keep her interested you will do fine... (even though you are both really young as was I and I know what it's like) just don't get nervous or choked up and speak your mind.... make her laugh, nothing touches a girls heart more than a man who can make her smile.... good luck and remeber to just be yourself...

Answer 2

Don't fret about having only one gf your whole life - you are young...dont worry about that.

Asking too many questions isn't such a big deal. Hopefully this person is also interested in you and will also ask you a lot of questions.

My first date convos are usually around music, movies, where we grew up, family, friends...then if we have common interests like maybe certain foods or nutrition or music, we chat about that as well. You're just gettting to know each other, so don't worry. Some first dates are just awkward anyway.

Answer 3

Don't worry about asking questions. The best conversationalist asks and then follows up on the answer. When that one plays out, ask something else, and talk about that. If she gives brief answers, maybe she's not all that interested in talking or, perish the thought, you. Don't worry--there are plenty of fish in the sea.

The worst thing is to want to talk about yourself. Sure, you're interesting, but somebody else might not think so. Steer the conversation away from you and toward her. You'll develop the knack.

And NEVER bring up the weather. Ever.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that a better strategy than trying to have topics to talk about or particular things to say might be to do things before meeting up with her that put you in a good frame of mind and relax you.
For instance:
- Make sure to get plenty of exercise that day so that you don't have a lot of pent up nervous energy (of course, don't over do it so that you're in pain).
- Make sure that you have done everything that you need to have done for the day (homework etc) so that you're not thinking about other things while with her.
- Don't show up too early or you will have nothing to do but sit and wait and get nervous.
- Do stuff that you enjoy before hand but that make you feel social, comfortable and more "yourself". Personnally, I would not play video games, although I enjoy them, because they make me feel "in my head" instead of outgoing and fun.
- Earlier in the day you might concider researching something that you know interests her so that you can talk about that but definitly don't overdo this.
- Research some things about the movie (director, actors, who wrote the story etc) so that you can talk about this after the movie but, again, don't overdo it as no one likes a know-it-all.

Hope some of the above helps. I have been there before and wish you the best.

Answer 5

first of all slow down and chill out, think about what your saying but don't take too long. just go with the flow iam sure once you are there with her she will help you along with the conversation, she prob just be as nervous as you are. ask about family, interests what shes doing at the weekend how was Christmas and new year, general likes and dislikes. don't stress just have fun you need to remember at this point you would have already asked her out and she said yes so she must like you to be there in the first place so don't try too hard to impress just be yourself, hope all goes well good luck

Answer 6

Just ask her a question about herself and chat about her answer. There's no need to ask loads of questions, but you need some questions to express an interest in her. Hopefully she'll ask you some questions back... if you let her chat with you. A conversation's all about discussion.. ask her about her opinions on anything that springs into your mind, talk about yours (not too much!) and it'll be fine. Just let it be natural and spontaneous, preparing stuff to say will show through.

Answer 7

dont go pictures-you'll never start a conversation and its boring!!

go bowling or ice scating- something like that anyway and then go for a burger or fish and chips. dont make an effort such as dinner at a restaurant at your age until you want to discuss to her about taking your relationship further.

Girls are into big brother(so start to watch it and ask her what she thinks) tell her that your thinking of highlights and ask for her opinion- obviously dont get them done if you dont want to- its just a concersation. tell her that your mum gets her beauty products from avon and tell her that she should go there. while your on internet why dont you visit www.avon.co.uk and get a catalogue sent out to you for her, she'll love the idea that you care about her looks.

ask her what her day in school was like and what her mates think of your mates. tell her that your mates fancy hers or something.

when your at the pics you dont talk about much but if your bowling you chat mostly about how crap she will be at it and you can also get a bit of flirting going on and you'll be able to see if she likes you if she flirts back.

good luck, any other ideas on dates and girls email me at [e-mail]

Answer 8

It takes forever to master the art of talk, generally you have to talk about nothing and then things will be good, like seignfield. Take a hint from that show.

But your gonna screw up, it just happens the first few times till u get used to it.

Answer 9

Well, tell her she looks nice... ask how her day was, ask about her favorite music or movies if you don't know already... you can be a dork like I was at first with my boyfriend and ask things like "What would you do if an army invaded the school?" and such... it makes for interesting conversation.

Answer 10

i know what you mean, i'm shy and when i get nervous i either go really quiet or i ask way too many questions, although its not always a bad thing so i'm told. why don't you just ask her about stuff she likes and talk about that. good luck.