ok we have been together for almost 9 months now and were grate together but sometimes i wonder if he controlls me i mean my friends(the few he lets me talk to) say he controlls me and even my mom say so i dont know what to do i love him but sometiems it scares me i guess like we play hit and stuff but he leaves marks sometimes and i ahve had recent boyfriends who were abusive so others see bruses and mark and think he is hiting me i no he is just playing(or i hope so) but i think its starting to get serious and im not alowed to talk to guys or look at them even...plz help....should we take a break?
thankx
xoxo
2007-01-11 04:10:38 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mommi I think you already know the answer to your question but maybe you just need some clarification.
YES YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM YOUR CONTROLLING BOYFRIEND.
You are beautiful woman and no one should have control of you...but you. PERIOD. Your boyfriend is giving you warning signs and you need to take note of them. If he is controlling more then likely he has a few other BAD trates that will NOT be good for the relationship.
A man will try to control you IF you let him control you. you have been together only for 9 months and thats not that long babe. Dont let him control you and you need to let him know that. And if he doesn't like that then you need to kick him to the curb.
Tell you what, before kicking him to the curb you need to talk to him about this. Let him know that he CAN NOT control you. Let him know that you may have other male friends and that he CAN NOT be insecure in this relationship.
If he really likes you or if even love is in the picture then he will sit and hear you out and even make some changes. If not then get the hell out before it gets WAY to serious because you will be the getting hurt at the end.
2007-01-11 04:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend really is too controlling. You have to talk to him! Tell him he is too controlling, and if he can't change his ways, then you'll have to break up with him. He can't run your life for you; you're your own person and he doesn't seem to know that. It may be because he's so into you, and doesn't want to lose you, but he won't let you talk to any other guys? That's not on. You should tell him how you feel, you seem a nice enough girl =], if he can't stop being so over protective, he's really not worth it. Hope this helped a little.. x x x
2007-01-11 04:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't "take a break" RUN. This guy is an abuser. If he is consistenly leaving marks, he's acting out his aggression and control under the disguise of "play".
Your history with abusive guys leaves you vulnerable to this predator .. that is what he is a bullying predator.
You are likely going to need some support because I'll bet he will try to bully and intimidate you when you break up with him. Ask mom to help you. This guy is dangerous. GET OUT NOW.
2007-01-11 04:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't just take a break...you need to leave this guy for good. I know you love him, but this is NOT normal for a relationship. He should not be leaving marks on you...and frankly, if your mom is saying this...you should probably take it into consideration that she only wants whats best for you..and he obviously is not good for you at all. I know it hurts..and you don't want to be without him, but my best friend went through this exact thing in the beginning of her relationship...the last time I saw her (6 months ago) she had two teeth missing. She is now not allowed to speak to me...so for all I know she could be dead. Do NOT let this happen to you.
2007-01-11 04:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should take a break, for good unless he gets help. You also should seek out some help to find out why you keep choosing abusive boyfriends. This should be a priority for you because it's likely that you'll continue choosing inappropriate partners until you find out why and work on healing what it is that makes you choose these guys.
2007-01-11 04:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by debrita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you need to get rid of him fast! That is so wrong and I think you know that. Love is Love, you can find love somewhere else with someone else. This guy sounds like trouble. and who the the hell does he think he is telling you not to look at other guys and you can only talk to certain people? I tell you one thing, if a man ever tried to put limitations on me, I would tell him to go **** himself and dont let the door hit him in the ***. Then I would tell my brother to go beat his *** for hitting and picking on me. This guy is the type that will cheat because he is insecure and he will control you and abuse you so he will feel powerful. BIG RED FLAG!!!!! you need to get rid of him ASAP!
2007-01-11 04:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need a break, you need to leave for good. This guy is psycho...trust me nothing good can come from this. He's obviously the obsessive jealous type and you're really attractive so he's going to be off his rocker and he will get worse with time. Run like hell.
2007-01-12 06:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is time for you to take a permanent break from this guy. No way a girl should stay in a relationship where the guy controls who you are friends with and who you can talk to. He's not supposed to be your father, he's supposed to be your partner, and what he is doing is only going to get worse.
2007-01-11 04:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please mommy if he is controlling you and it sounds like he is you need to let him know that you feel that way. Try your best to talk to him about some counsling , cause the last thing you want is for him to get abusive towards you from you trying to rebell from what he want. Then to every man looks to be in control of their spouse . the question is how much is too much. My opinion is to get the h!ll out of dodge.
2007-01-11 04:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by poohpooh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this hurts but you should get rid of him. If he's already this controlling it will get worse.
Despite his controlling behavior, do you really want to live a life where you cannot look at another guy. I have been in these relationships and it hurts, BUT IT IS EMBARASSING! Also, how do you plan to be successful at anything if you cannot interact with others? What kind of job, school....you will have to interact w/ others to be successful at anything. Get rid of the loser!
2007-01-11 04:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by SM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋