So I have to see my fiance's exGF (the one he was with right before me) at all his friends' events. Apparently they dated for a couple of years and he was letting the relationship drag because he was just comfortable but wasn't really in love. The reason why they broke up was because she was mean to him all the time, and also wanted him to propose. He never thought she was the one, so he finally broke it off. Which brought him to me. Anyway, the problem is that this exGF is in the same circle of friends as my fiance. I have had to see her twice at his friends' weddings, with more to come. Another thing is that he never pointed her out to me -- I only figured out who she was because I knew her name and she was the only girl in the crowd sneering at me. My fiance has no idea I know who she is, but it still bothers me that she stares me down. I don't even know her! How do I handle future weddings /events I have to attend where she will also be in attendance?
2007-01-11 04:09:51 · 15 answers · asked by Special K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had the same problem. My husband's ex-girlfriend clinged to all of his friends while we were dating in hopes of picking him back up if we ever broke off. I wish that his ex was only "lame" and not crazy. She once cornered me at a party and asked me with tears in her eyes how to get over my husband. She also lied to some hotel staff and made it into our room as his "sister"
I am happy to say the crazy lady finally went away when we got married. My advice is to "live it up" while she is around. Be the life of the party, always laughing and having a better time with his friends. In time, she'll figure out that sticking around his circle is only an embarrassment to her and she'll go away!
2007-01-11 05:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by question_everything 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by manca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have brass balls, so this might not be for you, but I would totally go up to her and introduce myself
Are you Jane?
Yes
Hi I'm Sue, I have just wanted to meet you for so long, I wish John had introduced us, but since I've seen you at a few functions and he hasnt, I thought I'd introduce myself. I really owe you one, John is just the greatest guy. I dont know how you let him get away, But I am sure glad you did. Thanks again!
And walk away. She will most likely be stunned and completely intimidated by you. End of the stare down. Or if the stare downs continue, continue to to wave at her and act totally greatful and oblivious to her hatred for you. LOL, I kind of wish I was you so I could do this!
2007-01-11 05:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, your fiance didn't even point her out to you? What do they think, that we women are stupid? We know the look of a sneering ex GF!
Bring it up to him that you know who she is, you figured it out. There really isn't anything else you can do except go to these events with your man, be somewhat mature, and make sure he treats you darn good so she sees she's no longer got a chance ;-) A little mean and contradicts my "be mature" advice but who cares....she shouldn't be sneering at you! And, don't forget to look DARN GOOD doing it too! If she's going to stare, you might as well look hot.
If you want your BF to have a talk with her about these stare-downs, that's up to you. Or, if you happen to catch her in the bathroom, bring it up to her yourself, and as adult as you can. Start with, "Hi...I've seen you at other events and noticed you across the room looking at me as if you know me - do I know you?"
2007-01-11 04:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy, but why don't you talk to your fiance about it. He, most likely, would be respectful of you.
He didn't want to tell you who she was probably because it was an uncomfortable topic. But you have a right to your feelings. I suggest telling him that it makes you uncomfortable and how the ex-gf acts.
DON'T accuse him of anything because the goal is to work together to figure it out.
2007-01-11 04:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill 'em with kindness. It really is the best way. Nobody will be able to say anything negative about you...and if she does, your fiance's other friends will know better. Don't stoop to her level.
2007-01-11 04:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about her, she is just mad that he found everything that he wants in a woman in you. All you can do is be happy with him and be polite to her because it will let her know that you are beyond her. Good luck!
2007-01-11 04:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your man why do you have to bother with her...if she comes up and tries to start s**t just say this is not the time or place and walk away
2007-01-11 04:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
honey you got the man, so when you see her sneering smile and wave and make sure you are enjoying yourself with your fiance and trust me she will stop. after all he picked you .
2007-01-11 05:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. Have you ever heard the expression " Kill them with kindness"? Just be the better person.
2007-01-11 04:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by suz' 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋