What is your opinion on keeping foster children?

Answer 1

My parents run a foster home and I know that many of the children that stayed with us are much better off then if they had been in a group home or something like that....however I think the courts need to stick with permanent foster homes because moving children around is not good emotionally for them and they need to regularly check the foster homes some of the kids that stayed with us came with horror stories about their old foster homes...

Answer 2

Do you mean adopting children after they've been your foster child? I think when the parent and child are very attached to one another its the only thing to do.

If your question means, "What is your opinion on taking in foster children?"....

It can be very challenging. Even the youngest children can be very different from children who have excellent nurturing and security, so foster mothers can think the children they get will be similar to their own - and they often are so different is can be a shock.

They can at times turn a normal home into something else, no matter how hard the parent tries not to let that happen. Even when the foster parent is excellent and cares about the child, and even if the child cares about the foster parent in some way, there can still be upheaval and a feeling that everyone lives in different worlds.

There is a high rate of children who lie, steal, wet beds, or talk about things (like their parents' being arrested or drugs or alcohol or the uncle who deals drugs, etc.) that children from "regular" homes don't have in their vocabulary. There can be talk about courts, sexual abuse, and - again - the uncle who deals drugs and also abuses people.

I think people who have no children yet or who have grown children should take foster children. I do not believe it is a healthy thing for someone to do if they have their own young kids (from newborn to twenty). There can also be an attempt on the part of foster kids to compete with the foster mother's biological children or to "take them down a peg". There can be resentment all around.

Your own children can feel short-changed if they don't get to spend "alone time" with you because you're too busy with foster kids.

I knew someone who had foster children. It was one of those things that sounds really nice when a widow doesn't want to be alone in her house and thinks she has a nice place to offer a child who needs it - but having foster children in the home can turn into a giant can of worms that nobody warns anyone about. When it gets so everyone brings their pocketbooks into the bathroom (because if they don't their money and make-up will be gone) at all times, and when locks get put on every door in the house for one reason or another, it can get so that the once-nice-home has become something very different.

Answer 3

My husband and I talked about adopting one day but we could never foster since we'd get attached to the kids. We love children but I think it's a good idea if you don't get attatched to them when you find a new home for them but personally I think that adopting would be less painful and more rewarding.

Answer 4

it's a great idea especially if u can't hav kids cos ure giving a kid wiv no family or a troubled past another chance

Answer 5

its great, wonderfull ppl with a big heart!

Answer 6

I think it's great, my grandmother used to do it.