WIll my cat always hate me or will he forgive me?

Question

Hi, Chase's mom here - I am looking for some tips/stories/advice/articles, anything really. I brought home a 7-week old kitten last week and Chase is very angry and I understand that. They officially met face to face yesterday. It went well as far as there not being any sort of fight or real aggression, but chase is growling the entire time little Max is out. I understand the territory factor and he obviously has submission from the other two cats in the home - everyone agrees, he is Top Cat. The things that is probably bothering me most, is that he is mad at me. He doesn't want me to pet him and just looks away when I talk to him. I have been laying on lots of extra love on him and even singeling him out to get treats, etc... I'm worried that he is getting stressed and that he is unhappy and I really hope he adapts to his. Has anyone been through something similar. Have you had your cat turn from you and if so, did he change back to being lovable?

A few clairifications:

- Chase and Ashton(males) havebeen neutered. They are 6 months

- Max is male and not neutered yet. I will do around 16 weeks.

- My cat's don't run my house and I'm not a "Cat Lady". I've rescued all 3 kittens from dire situations adn just want them to be happy.

**The answers below are very helpful. I just hate when you have to sift through the immature people here**

Answer 1

Kittens are a terrible trial to an older established cat in the home. They are SO energetic and have no "manners" whatsoever. So you have three adult cats plus the kitten?

You might go and read Dr. Jean Hovfe's article at www.littlebigcat.com titled "Cat to Cat Introductions". Though some of it might not be appicable right now she may address the issue of the resident cat's attitude and if or when it will change. There are flower essences you can use for Chase's stress or unhappiness which might make thngs easier for him.

I think he will probably get over it fairly soon and I wouldn't be particularly concerned unless Chase were to go into hiding or stop eating - something dire like that. And he will soon "forgive" you for bringing the pesky kitten into his life. Cats don't really carry grudges for any significant length of time.

My adult male "top cat" has been with me for fifteen years now. He has never really appreciated any new cat in the house - and there have been four in his lifetime. When I had foster kittens a few years ago he would hiss whenever he went by their door.

Answer 2

I lived with a girl a few years ago who had a real unhealthy fascination with house pets. It stared with 2 cats and quickly grew too 5 cats, a German Shepard, an Akita, and 2 Ferrets. In a 1 bedroom apartment. Needless to say, I am no longer with her. But I do remember vividly how the cats reacted to each other and us as more were brought in. Some would get angry at each other some would get angry with us. But eventually everyone settled down and got along. And then I got the hell out! But seriously I remember 2 or 3 of those cats not wanting to be touched for days or sometimes weeks after a new cat came in. I remember 1 cat that would'nt eat for a couple of days after another cat was brought in. By the time I realized I had enough, I remember all of those cats getting along to the point that they were cleaning each other. They never stayed angry at us for long though. Good luck.

Answer 3

chase is just a little upset cats will always show u when there mad at u all u have to do is give chase a little time to get used to max if u have had chase for a long time he prob thinks in his mind that this new kitten is here to replace him as soon as chase sees that u still love him the most and this kitten is no threat to the love that u have for him he will forgive u and become himself again iv gone through this many times actually im having this problem my self AGAIN at the moment i have 3 dogs and a sorta new kitten will nemo(my cat) was fine hes always been a little mean hes not really overly friendly but we got a new puppy the other day and now when i pick him up he just hisses looks and me and jumps out of my arms *eye roll* iv had this problem many times and i know that nemos going to get over it....

i know that u are probably having some problems coping with ur cat not showing his regular affection but he will get over it no worries and he will be back to himself in no time

hope i helped

and keep doin what ur doing with chase now (giving him the treats and not the others spending some extra alone time with him) cats forgive u easy and remember cats are mans best friend because they truly are more loyal..

Answer 4

Ignore the cat and let him adjust. The top cat generally stays peeved for awhile. The extra attention will probably just make him more angry. If you ignore him, he might get a little concerned that you are mad at him and he better adjust. This may go on for a month or two. Also there is the question of neutering. If your male is not nuetered, he will remain pissed at another unneutered male. If the new kittten is a female, he may just stay annoyed until the female is neutered. You didnt specify if the new cat is a male but if so the top cat will be royally mad until the new male is neutered also. So I dont know if your cats are neutered or not but it makea a difference in behavior and acceptance.

Answer 5

No fear! Cats are very complex, emotional creatures. Just like humans, they are stubborn, they get mad, they don't like changes...

Your cats desire for your companionship and affection will win out in the end. He is punishing you the only way he can to let you know how unhappy he is that he didn't get to vote on the change.

You should limit your contact with Max, to only when Chase is not around and then wash your hands after giving attention to little Max. This will reduce the jealousy and animosity.

You should also give Chase some space and perhaps not smother him. This will give him the space to forgive you and long for your attention without being able to use his weapon of animosity towards you.

Answer 6

It will take time. And yes he will forgive you. Soon they won't be able to live without each other. They will prefer each other over you. They will try to get the most attention from you by showing off. The kitten will play and run circles around Top Cat Chase soon., TCC will lick the kitten and be just like mom showing the kitten different techniques.. They will be inseparable.

Answer 7

You don't say how old Chase is. But I went through that. And the oldest cat I had learned to like the newer cat. But the younger cat never got to like the newest kitten. Funny thing though...the oldest cat outlived the younger cats!

Oh, when I had the dog put down.....NONE of the cats would have anything to do with me for 6 weeks! My mother had to feed them for me! While the cats may not have been fond of one another...they all loved the dog!


Good luck!

Answer 8

We have 3 cats and when we brought the other two home strange thing was our oldest cat took to them like a father but I do know that your cat will get over it and he'll come around. He won't hate you forever. He just thinks that you are going to give all your love and attention to the new cat just keep trying to show him love and spent sometime with your older cat. Cats can be fickle but he'll come around. A good magazine to subscribe to would be Catfancy. Check it out at catfancy.com.

Answer 9

Your cat should be ok after a while. When I brought a new kitten home, my cat would hiss at me when I tried to pet her. I'm sure she could smell him on me and didn't like the smell getting so close to her. It took her a few weeks to be my friend again. She still doesn't like the younger cat and will hiss at him but they never fight.

Answer 10

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