What if He is Too big For Me???

Question

my boyfriend and i have finally hit that point where we want to go ahead to the next level and do it. we set aside a date and we tryed it but it didn't work . yes i was in pain and yes i cried but we couldn't go through with it because it was too BIG for me. What should i do, i dont want him to be content with where we are???

Answer 1

yikes! nothing like getting your cervics being poked at..if that what you mean.. just get out the K Y and take it slow. sounds like you are a newbee in the sex department..again i will say..lube and take it SLOW.

Answer 2

This is offensively your first sexual experience. it's probably not that he is to big for you ( most men aren't that big...lol ) Your just not "worked in" yet. The first few times will hurt, and you might even bleed a bit. my question to you is why are you in such a rush to have sex? If your doing it so he will be more happy with you and want to be with you, then your doing it for the wrong reasons. You should be ready for that kind of step in your life cause once it's gone.. it's gone. So many women feel there first time was a big mistake. Just make sure this is what you really want to do. If you have some foreplay, relax... and use plenty of TY jelly then you should be OK next time. Please Please use protection. If he loves you then he would wear a condom. No glove No love.

Answer 3

Keep trying. Eventually, you might get it right. Seriously, if he is too big for you, that can cause you some serious health problems down the road. Are you willing to take that chance? Like no bladder control. That would definetely ruin you being a cheer leader. Maybe you shouldn't be doing that kind of stuff yet. This could be your sign that you are definetely not ready for it yet. You might want to consider dating someone else or just get over it and accept the pain like a big girl.

Answer 4

That happens a lot on the first attempt. You may want to try using a lubricant to help. That may help reduce any pain you might feel. As you become more active, you will create your own lubricant which helps with penetration. Feeling pain the first time is very common. If he is a decent person, he won't force anything and he will be considerate of your feelings.

Answer 5

Have him work up to it...a finger at a time. First one, then two and so on. You'll eventually get to the point where he could drive a truck through it! Remember, when you give birth, the baby is usually 6-10 pounds; about the size of a small turkey!

Answer 6

First things first, you have to listen to your body. It was good that you guys stopped when you did, you don't want to hurt yourself just for his sake. You only get one vagina, so take care of it. As for him being TOO BIG, you'll become more comfortable the more you do it. Why don't you switch positions? You get on top so that way you control how deep the penetration is and therefore it will hurt less. Our vaginas can expand to push out a baby and I know he's not that big. Just give it time and don't rush it, it'll just be more painful. Happy lovemaking and WRAP IT UP!!!

Answer 7

When i lost my virginity...i went through agonizing pain, and didn't even get to enjoy it. The guy who took my virginity had an average sized p*nis...I actually could not enjoy sex to the fullest until about the 20th time with him. My advice is that you keep trying..and get him to stimulate you in other ways....foreplay is a big deal...and if he can get you excited and lubricated enough before he enters you, it will make a world of difference. good luck

Answer 8

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. First, he's got to work on his technique. There is NO reason for it to be painful, ever. You have to be warmed up enough.... if he uses his hands and mouth enough first, and starts slow, it really should be no problem. Try being on top; that way, you are in control, and will be less tense.

If that doesn't work, you need to work up to it - have him get together several of his friends with different sizes. Start small and work your way up. By the end of the night you'll be able to handle anything, and love it.

Answer 9

Dont worry about it , it will strech. It;s normal for it to hurt the first times. actually it still happens to me. im not a virgin and every time i have sex with my boyfriend it hurts me and sometimes i have to push it really hard for it to get in cuz i get so tight but once we get the rithym the pain goes away. giev it sometime and ofcouse if his is too big it will be a litle harder but is not impossible and he needs to be delicate so that he doesnt hurt u. if he really cares about u he will be patient.

Answer 10

IF you really want to do this then there are a couple of things you can do:

Relax, if you are not your body will create resistance
Let him massage you with his fingers to relax your vagina
Buy KY Jelly; It will help make penetration easier
Consider using dildos/vibrators of various sizes. As you stretch to accomodate them, you will find it easier to accomodate him.
(ignore the knucklehead who suggested getting together a couple of his friends to "help" out; i am sure they might like it but it is not an ideal solution unless you are into that)

I hope you find this information helpful

Answer 11

lots of lubrication, it sounds bad but the vaginal walls are capable of quite a bit of stretching. use lots of lubrication and go real slow. just take a little bit at a time. i had a problem like this with one of my gfs and it was simply a matter of taking it easy and using plenty of foreplay to get her nice and relaxed and loosened up. and it took quite a while for her to get used to it. don't be afraid to take breaks and even do it over a couple of days.

of course the alternative would be the band-aid route. lube it up as much as you can, and just slam it to the hilt and hold it there till your used to it. it'll hurt alot, but it'll only hurt until you adjust to it.