There is this guy who I've been dating and hanging out with alot since the beginning of December. We have gotten fairly intimate but not too far. We have actually known eachother for a long time (Several years), and only recently have we been taking the relationship further. So here we are, little over a month of dating. Would this be considedred a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? So far the relationship has been monogamous on both sides. Neither one of us has said "I love you." It almost feels too soon to say that. I feel nothing but love for him, but it seems like if I said it now it might scare him away. Do you think it's too soon to use the "L" word? Boyfriend or no?
2007-01-11 03:38:36 · 15 answers · asked by S L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well lets slow it down for a sec mommi. The last thing we want to do is move to fast too soon. Now there is really no time limit on when the "L" word should be said because no one really have control over that but just let things happen naturally. If everything is going great then just keep going with the flow. Now if your heart says tell him the "L" word today fine..if your heard isn't ready for another 6 months...well thats fine to. But here is the trick and this is what you truly have to figure out. Make sure this feeling that you have isn't just infatuation. And thats where most people mess up.
So just take your time. If its really true love then trust that everything will be just fine and everything will fall right into place. You guys have been friends for a while and above anything you guys should always be friends no matter what happens.
2007-01-11 03:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend, yes. Even a week of being together justifies "boyfriend and girlfriend", I'd say - but I'm guessing you're American and maybe it works a bit differently over there. If so, excuse me.
As for telling him "I love you", I'm really not sure. I stand by the philosophy that you should always tell somebody exactly how you feel because you never know when it might just be too late... I told my girlfriend that I loved her a month into us being together. I meant it, and I still love her now (sixth months together, now) but she never said it back... and that kind of broke my heart. She still has never said it, and that crushes me because it has put me off of saying it to her again. And I really want too. I feels like it should be a reflex...
...so, keep that in mind, I guess. It's a sort of analogy to help you decide. On the other hand, though, remember that you could say it to be greeted with the same reply back. And he could really mean it.
That'd be perfect, huh?
I suppose at the end of the day, if you DO say it, then you were MEANT to say it, and that, in a way, is the best advice I can offer.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 11:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it's WAY too soon to say I love you, because you don't know that for sure yet. Also, I don't think you two are Boyfriend and Girlfriend yet until one of you verbal states it, or you ask him if you too are now in a committed relationship. I've been seeing a guy since Thanksgiving and we are "Dating" not quite b/gfriends. But I'm going to ask him if he wants to be serious with me or not. If he says yes then we are bf/gf if not, then I've wasted a lot of time on his ***. Good LUCK. And talk with him!! Open communication and honesty works wonders!!!
2007-01-11 11:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not too soon to say it. my bf and i hve been together since the end of november, and i met him only 2 weeks before we got started going out. he said i love you to me 3 weeks ago. i do love him therefore it was easy for me to respond, so go for it, and be the first to say it, chances are he feels the same and is just afraid that if he goes first, it will scare you away. and yes, it sounds like he is in fact ur boyfriend
2007-01-11 11:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon. Enjoy your time of dating and take the pressure off. Have fun, get to know each other better, and make sure you each know the other's expectations.
2007-01-11 11:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys can consider yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend. Make sure to clear that up first or it will be awkward. It might be too early to say "I love you." Just ask him how much does he likes you.
2007-01-11 11:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is too soon, give it some more times. it will be best if u let him say it first, that way u will be sure of ur answer.
2007-01-11 11:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you are afraid to take the risk but if you don't do it you will have regrets too.\so if i were you i will dare to take the risk because if you are so close he will understand you and you will understand his reaction either it is good or bad ....but am almost sure he is waiting the magical words from you
2007-01-11 11:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by secret &trade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't use the word just yet. Give it a couple of more months so you can see where it is going!!!
2007-01-11 11:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know if you should say "I love you" is if you DO love him.
2007-01-11 11:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋