I am hooking up with this guy and he finally told me he has feelings for me. He doenst want a girl friend and I dont want a boy friend so thats good. The other night we were hanging out and he told me this story that involved him going out to lunch with this girl who he works with. I guess she is engaged and he didn't know that and her boy friend say them leaving work together to get lunch and freaking out. Anyway my question is if he is telling me this is he asking this girl out on a date? He said its nothing and he just wanted someone to go to lunch with...Do i have reason to worry?
2007-01-11 03:29:59 · 19 answers · asked by Sam s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having been to lunch with female colleagues myself, some of whom may have been single, others not, but myself not being single, I can certainly say that 'IT'S JUST LUNCH'. Many of us make friends in the workplace - it would be stranger not to - you're with some likeminded and intelligent people, why would you ignore them?
If the girl you mentioned has a boyfriend / fiancee and he's getting jealous, that's immaturity on his part. Immaturity not to trust her, and to allow his imagination to read something that's just not there. It was lunch, not dinner, not drinks after work (which would also probably be nothing), not holding hands or being seen giving one another parting kisses. They're just colleagues, and maybe friends. That's it.
The fact that you are concerned about this does raise questions as to whether or not you mean what you say about not wanting a boyfriend. If he's not your boyfriend, maybe you should ask yourself why you even THINK you need to be worried. The two of you have not made any kind of committment, you're not even dating. So for both those reasons, you shouldn't be feeling anxious.
2007-01-11 04:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by prusec_int 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i didnt think so, i think this early on in the relationship/fling if this was the case he would have not had to tell you about the other girl . i think though that you must like him more than you think you do, otherwise you would not be too worried if he was hooking up with another girl. it could be that he told you this because he really likes you and wanted you to feel a bit jealous and was just looking for a reaction from you. this isn't anything to worry about , just take your time figure out what you want from him and go with the flow. hope all goes well :0)
2007-01-11 03:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by claire01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand the b/f freakin out cause i guess most lads would but he may well of just wanted someone to have lunch with. i work in an office full of girls who are all taken as am i but what am i meant to do if they all go out and ask me? its nothin to worry about, especially if the girl is engaged. he's probs just tellin u he has other female friends too who he likes to hang with now an then to see how u'd react. keep it sweet ;-)
2007-01-11 03:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by SCULLY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No probably not, you shouldnt be worried anyway- look at what you put in the question- you dont want a boyfriend so Logically why should you even care?
But you do because you really like this guy- becareful and think about what you really want!
2007-01-11 03:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you were friends and now you are worried that he is going to lunch with somebody ? I think you need to make up your mind . do you want a boyfriend or not ? and also he said he does not want a girlfriend . find someone you can be interested in . I think that it is definately not this guy . good luck.
2007-01-11 03:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends what u want him for. if u say that he doesnt want agirlfriend and u dont want a boyfriend then what's the big deal he has the right to ask another girl out. so maybe u should think about if thats really what u want or if u like him enough to have a relationship with.
2007-01-11 03:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you don't want a boyfriend, but you want your boy-friend to not date other women or you will be jealous and be "Worried"
Sounds like you really DO want a boyfriend, if so, dump this guy and find one that is not afraid of making a commitment.
Good Luck!
2007-01-11 03:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl, he sounds like a player.
Ask yourself this if he had the opportunity with this other girl would he take it?
Move on, hes toxic. He wants your affections but without the involvement.
2007-01-11 05:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by kate d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry? You guys arent dating and you both made it clear you dont want boy/girl friends.. THis tells me that you both are open to other relationships. We're you not honest when you said you didnt want a boyfriend?
2007-01-11 03:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dutty
2007-01-11 03:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by castle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋