We're spending the weekend together,im not quite sure where yet. We've only been together a few days but i really wanna feel closer to him and do other things together (besides sex......which we havnt even done) that will bring us closer.
2007-01-11 03:19:00 · 10 answers · asked by tiNkErBeLL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anything that involves talking and getting to know eachother. As long as you spend quality time together, learning new things about eachother it will bring you closer. You do not even have to go out. Spend a nice night in together, have dinner and talk.
2007-01-11 03:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was wondering the same thing. So I read wikipedia about relationships and what they mean. The biggest thing I work on is intimacy. Intimacy is complex in that its meaning varies from relationship to relationship, and within a given relationship, feelings of closeness may be connected or confused with sexual feelings. In other relationships, intimacy has more to do with shared moments than sexual interactions. Basically you have to find activites you'll can do together, like movies, or going to the mall, or just sitting at home in from of the T.V.
2007-01-11 11:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by beau0021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to tell my former high school female students to make something of themselves and not to rely on a man to bring hapiness. The divorce rate is over 50 percent failure in the USA for first time marriages, over seventy percent failure rate for second time marriages. you MUST develop yourself to the fullest, define what makes you tick and passionate, and you must become extremely successful in your career. It is only when your career is in full swing and you are really making a greater success of yourself that the right people show up.
That being said,
Sex does not make people closer for the long run. There has to be friendship respect, and honesty between the couple. Woek on that.
Bars bring on alcoholic irresponsible jerks. Clubs too. A great dancer and the right lines do not mean love and successful marriages. Do not mix up great sex with love. They are two distinct and separate entities. Sex is to reproduce the species only. It is not love. Love is something else. Sex can improve with real love and intimacy. If you are in lust, it is not love. If someone is bad to you, you do not want sex with them unless you are delusional and are using them too, or if you mistakingly think that a great orgasm will make the men stay or change. If you find yourself thinking about a man 100 percent of the time or close to it, he is NOT good for you. You will lose yourself in him. If you are a giver to the men you lust, then learn to be less available and more equality demanding. You have the right to be treated well and decently. That does not mean lavishly. It means honestly with respect. And it goes both ways.
Forget the multitude of books. They will mostly confuse you except the short Robert Johnson trio of books.
I have learned about boundaries. I have the feeling you know nothing about them. This is great to learn. There is a great book on the subject called Boundaries. It is a thick non-religious book on the subject, a soft cover, /Ph DO written. Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No is another great book.
.If a man never says he loves you but treats you well, he loves you. It is all about actions and deeds.
A man who can walk equally with you and you with him, one who asks for advice, one who doesn't bottle up anger, and that goes both ways is rare, but the best ever.
Best of luck!
2007-01-11 11:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's cold outside, sit by the fire and enjoy some hot cocoa or wine depending on your age. Go for a walk in the park. Another suggestion is to go dancing too. Hope this helps!
2007-01-11 11:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by T-money 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got it Hon, caring and sharing good times together is what it's all about. Sex is nice but it's just "frosting on the cake" really.
2007-01-11 11:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it's only been a few days and you're this concerned about y'all not feeling close enough, he's gonna hit the door running. just chill out and enjoy each other's company.
2007-01-11 11:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, you 've only been together for a few days? you shouldnt be spending the weekend anywhere
2007-01-11 11:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by maximus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Partner yoga can be very intimate, maybe pick up some books on it, or print info from the web before you go.
2007-01-11 11:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by wickywickyjoka 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try talking to here not just sex or thats what the only thing you good for
2007-01-11 11:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by jaishuntae 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some real intimacy, it never gets old finding out different things about each other on the inside :) :) :)
2007-01-11 11:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋