I am really in love with this guy. But he has a son,and I dont have any kids so I really dont know how to aaccept that.When we have plans, he always have to go get his son. And I just dont wanna go no where no more.We broke up, but its like Im loosing apart of myself.I'm the type that feels like when you have a baby even though you may not be involved you are still going to be involved. When we were in the car yesteray he didnt answer the phone when she called, my question is why. IS he cheating, is that why he brokeupp with me. Or is it that I cant accept his son, becasuse I believe shes always gonna be there. I am so confused. I told him he has a option to be in a relationship or nothing he wants to be friends. I cant do it. I cant be just friends. How do I tell him I need him?HOw do I know if hes cheating? How do I try to accept that his son is apart of his life.What do I do?
2007-01-11 03:07:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, this is something that you need to analyze and think it over. his son will always be a part of his life. if you can accept not just him. he and his son with be a part of the relationship. (in another word, you have to accept him and his son as a whole package). i sounds like you're not willing to go any further since he has a baggage. this is not going to be a short term, this is going to be for ever. so, think about it. if you can't accept it; then move on with your life and so will he. as far as cheating, it's not clear yet to make that assumption. but for your own sanity, think about what is good for you, and what make you happy.
2007-01-11 03:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His son will always be a part of his life, and his ex will always be there as well. Either you accept it or you don't. Depending on the circumstances, I would say he caught on to your attitude towards his situation and wasn't comfortable with it.
If you do go back out with him, how about asking him if only the two of you do something WITHOUT his kid?
Maybe he didn't answer his phone because he knew his ex would be trying to interfere and cause problems.
2007-01-11 03:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to much drama. You are not ready for this. Move on. The pain that you feel will go away. You need someone that don't have any kids
2007-01-11 03:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by irishlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too much drama, i agree. if you knew from the beginning he had a son,why didnt you run away if it bothered you so much. learn from my experience: today is my 5th anniversary with my man and he has a daughter. i couldnt get used to share him with her but lets face it! it's the kid who's sharing him with you. it took me YEARS to get over it but if i want to stay with him, i need to get the whole package! sure, it would be perfect to have a guy all for ourselves but if that's what you want, then you are with the wrong guy.
2007-01-11 03:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy has too much baggage...and, It sounds as he is not serious about you..
forget him
2007-01-11 03:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋