I really do love him,and he says that he loves me.But he has to stay in for a year.Now I can wait on him but I don't know if he would want to be with me after a year of him being gone.
2007-01-11 03:03:20 · 16 answers · asked by Shae H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him not to drop his soap, or bend over for anything...beware if he comes back with his hair corn-rowed.
2007-01-11 03:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is..at this stage its very difficult to either part or stay.U may want to stay on to show support,he_coz he'll feel insecure without ur support.However,there's more to a relation than keeping up others needs.Will u be comfortable with a lover with a criminal record?Do u think he'll be able to get the sort of job that is respectable enough,paying enough for u 2 to lead cpmfortable lives?Will his experiences inside jail n urs outside change u as people?Will it not bring about a change in perspectives?
U both may not want to be together,so dont worry that he may not want u only...Right now,give him the support but remember u are an individual too..u have dreams,aspirations n wishes too...be sensitive to what U want,n if it means staying on_good,if not,dont feel guilty about walking out..its perfectly all right..
2007-01-11 11:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to see a single woman durring that year, remember. I'm sure he'll be thrilled to be with you after a year is up.
With that said, you may want to consider whether this is a guy YOU want to be with. There are many reasons one might go to jail, and it doesn't necessarily make him a bad person, but it really depends on the circumstance. Another thing you should keep in mind is that he may be let out early if he behaves himself. From what I understand, 1 year + can be let out early for good behavior. Sometimes they only give 364 days, though, which cannot be shortened. That might just be a local thing here in NY / NJ, though.
2007-01-11 11:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one, i was in that same situation once about 5 years ago, only except that my boyfriend at the time was sent to prision and has was gone for a year and a half. it is very hard but if u think u truely love that person and they r worth waiting for than follow your heart. but i will tell u this, when guys get sent away for awhile they r never the same when they get out. they have alot of time to think. sure at first things will seam great, because they had no one to love them for awhile, u will be his entire world at first, but after being out isnt new anyone they will get tired and they always want to get out and have some "fun" and also u have to also take into consideration that he is going to expect u to send him money while he is locked up, and support him. trust me i have be in that situation many times. and well for me anyways it never worked out. u also have to think about your-self r u willing to put your life on hold for an entire year for something that might or might not work out. and u need to ask your-self would he do the same for u and wait for u and be faith-ful? there r lots of things to think about. u need to make this decision but when u do think about what is best for u not for him. if u do wait and things do work out i want u to know that i wish u the best of luck. keep me posted and let me know. u can e-mail me at
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2007-01-11 11:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by greengrass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what he done, if you are ok with what he done and if you really want to wait for him - a year is a long time if you have only been together 6 months - I think only you can answer this one yourself.
2007-01-11 11:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? He's in jail. He isn't going to be getting any Pus$y there. His nuts are going to be so sear that he'll bust his load if you just whistle on it. Quit being such a douchebag or he might just turn gay all together.
2007-01-11 11:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should ask him if he wants u to wait. u wouldn't want to wait an year for nothing would u? don't destroy ur life. love comes and goes, and he's in jail, do u really want to be with someone like that?
2007-01-11 11:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is.. what did he do? Do you really want to be with someone whose in jail? If you get married.. are you going to feel comfortable having children with him?
2007-01-11 11:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by stephanieann31882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends and be there for him.
That's all you can do right now.
If you love him you will stay faithful.
But then again its always hard.
Its even harder for him, if he has no one.
Hopefully he will not go back after he gets out.
2007-01-11 11:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think about why he is in there what are the chances he will be a repeat offender and do you want to waste all your time for someone in Jail?
2007-01-11 11:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋