I have been talking to this guy for about 2 months and its a long distance relationship. He is coming to see me in a week and i've been really excited and nervous. He thinks that any hair on a females body is disgusting (except the head) and wants me to shave my arms. He also wants me to wear my hair down 24/7 cause he thinks that girls pulling there hair up is a turn off...( i just understandable... cause i want him to like me) and he also made it clear that if he didnt like the way i looked... like my weight... he will be sure to tell me that i need to fix it because he only dates skinny girls. Is he to demanding? or am i just over reacting?
2007-01-11 02:57:05 · 19 answers · asked by Kristin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not shave a thing that I don't normally shave or wear my hair any different than I normally do if I were you. He either likes you for you or he doesn't and never has to visit again. I won't spend time with people who don't let me just be me. It takes a lot of energy to try and meet someone else's every desire. You don't even know this person intimately and he is already making clear his selfish and demanding ways, I would consider it a blessing so that if he comes and you really don't like him all that much, you know not to waste any more time. People like your friend have insecurities about themselves which is why they are so quick to point out perceived issues with others.
2007-01-11 03:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way to demanding, has he never seen any pictures of you? I think the whole online dating, never meeting someone thing is a bit crazy anyway, I mean how do you know you can even trust this dude? You hear about it all the time, people meet online, the other person is not what they expected and people go crazy and have raped and killed before because the person was not what they expected. Cancel the trip for your own safety!!! This guy is already borderline crazy, he knows what he wants and if that is not you then you don't know what could happen.
2007-01-11 03:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best to answer this question with a question:
Are you willing to jump through hoops all the time to make sure this guy likes you?
I agree with the person who flagged this guy as a control freak. That's a bad sign from the start. Loving somebody is about accepting who they are, even on their worst day, and still wanting to spend your precious time with them. If he isn't in love with your insides, you will always be turning flips to keep his eye pleased. There should be some limits to that.
Don't sell yourself short. If he wants a barbie doll, I'm sure he can find a full-sized one. Just add air. But if he wants to love you for who you are (hair pulled up or not), then you have a winner. From your post, I can only guess that you'd end up miserable trying to please this guy!
2007-01-11 03:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by hbond2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, don't shave your arms, wear your hair up, and if he says anything about your weight, be sure to let him know about his. The important thing about relationships, is that both people in them are comfortable. If you are comfortable with shaving your arms, wearing your hair down, and being told about your weight, by all means go ahead! But it seems to me this won't be the end of his demands. Talk to him, he may not actually expect you to do all of these things, and if you start obeying his every whim now, expect to be expected to do them for the rest of your relationship!
2007-01-11 03:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah hes extremely demanding, you shouldnt put up guys like this, be really careful or just call off the whole relationship cause things will only get more worse from this point on.
2007-01-11 03:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt even meet him, He is probably a controlling person and no matter what you fix he is going to have a problem with something else. I would have cut him off at the whole shaving the arms part.
2007-01-11 03:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if a guy doesn't like you for you BEFORE you get married, (the time when they are usually acting) do you honestly think he's going to change after you get married. He sounds very demanding. If you don't feel good about it, chances are its a bad idea. Go with your gut. He sounds kinda.. strange.. like he has unrealistic thoughts about women. We aren't all those skinny little (fake) models in the magazines.. :) I would highly suggest you think about this more, before you move on! I'll tell you this, I wouldn't want to be with him!
2007-01-11 03:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by stephanieann31882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are you and if he don't like you the way you are then hit the road. Why would you want to do all of this for him? He sounds like a A** H***. Be yourself. If he is acting this way before you have even had the chance to meet him he will be a real jerk once you start to really date him. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM THIS GUY!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 03:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by irishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's really controlling and I'm certain you can do better. Tell him to stay home. If you get into a relationship w/this guy, he will end up controlling every facet of your life. You don't need him. If he dosen't like you for YOU, too bad.
2007-01-11 03:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too demanding. You want someone that is going to like you for who you are. If I were you I would tell this guy to stay wherever it is that he lives, because you are not going to be told what to do and how to look. You deserve someone who likes everything they see about you, not trying to change it.
2007-01-11 03:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋