I recently started talking to someone and it immediately became apparent to me that she's an amazing woman. She's so smart, funny, beautiful, endearing, articulate and sweet. She just might be everything I've ever wanted, and we think sorta similarly too.
Well, I'm 27 and I haven't been in a serious relationship in a couple of years... and I guess a byproduct of that is... that I go out almost every night, barhopping, hanging out with my friends like I was still 19.
Well, last night I blew her off to go hang out with my roommate at a bar. I told myself that "giving her some space would be good", but it was probably just to justify my own selfish, immature behavior. Once I got out, I realized what I had done and I immediately regretted it. I missed her, I wanted to hear her voice, she's all I could think about.
I feel like its time to put the kid stuff behind me and grow up. What do you think?
2007-01-11 02:46:25 · 36 answers · asked by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had to start and re-start this post at least 5 different times because I can not stop reading your question over and over again. You seem like an awesome guy that any girl would be lucky to have. I am sure she appreciates what you are willing to give up for her- she sounds pretty amazing too.
Any girl worth her 'womanhood' would love for her man to maintain a healthy balance of the two. I dunno though....if I had a guy that would do all of this for me...well....I think I would be ready to make some sacrifices for him as well.
Offensive....I'm crazy about you.
2007-01-11 03:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is. 27 is not too young to have a serious relationship.
Even though you still have that energy that's almost limitless, almost infinite gimmicks.....now.. tomorrow.. anywhere.. everywhere! some beer drinking sessions after work, and coffee drinking sessions to make one sober right after, partying, hooking ups. It's all fun and exhilarating albeit some heartbreaks here and there. i guess, anyone, at some point in his life spends his own "party" the only way he feels or sees fit, or depending on how some circumstances prescribe it. i dont know..
all i know is that at one exact moment, the most important thing (after spending a good 12 hours, working) is to be with that special someone...whether that means sharing that popcorn and watching a movie or singing together, isn't it wonderful knowing that someone is always there for you? waiting for you to be home? Nothing compares to that.
If she's the one, grab her tight.
Good luck
2007-01-11 04:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Melrose 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that's only something you can decide.. but if she's a good one and you are ready don't let her slip away ... they are hard to find.. from experience, for me barhopping isn't an rewarding entertainment.. I think you proved to yourself that you want a positive change of lifestyle even though it might be hard to let go. Make sure you have all your "single lifestyle" out before you comet, Or there will be heart ache. That is so sweet that you miss her and want to hear her voice..Have you told her that?
2007-01-11 02:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Awwwww......how sweet! If more men in the world thought like you, I think we'd all be in better shape. I'd say you are on your way to being a very GOOD man, and you may have just found your match. Here's a bonus for you........tell her exactly what you've shared with us! I guarantee you, the both of you will form a bond that will be truly hard for anyone to dissolve! Congrats!
2007-01-11 02:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS ON REALISING THIS ABOUT YOURSELF!!! Great. Now where to from here?? Call her up and tell her you're really sorry for blowing her off. She's obviously just as interested in you. Ask her out for dinner tonight. You acted selfishly last night-- it IS time to grow up, and by realising this you've already taken a step forward in the right direction. Call her-- NOW! Good luck! ;-)
2007-01-11 02:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Me! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's definitely time to grow up. You could still go out with your friends but. not as much. Maybe you still have some underlying issues about the last serious relationship you were in. Work through that and you'll be fine.
2007-01-11 02:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by darkchild39702 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, lad, at 27, it's safe to say you've had enough fun jumping from one bed to another. If you've found the woman of your dreams, someone who you wouldn't mind spending the rest of your life with, then yeah, it's time to grow up and get serious. Hopefully, for your sake, she feels the same way about you.
2007-01-11 02:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Grow up!! Don't let something good slip out of your hands because you want to drink. Drink with her at your house or something if you want to go drink. There are nights for your boys but don't ever blow a woman off. That's the worst thing you could do if you're trying to get with somebody. Use your head!
2007-01-11 02:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angel*Eyesz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your about 3 years late time to grow up and not miss out on the important things in your that you could be doing
2007-01-11 02:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should grow up and actually show her how much she means to you. Good girls are hard to find so hold on to what you have, cause you say its good. You what R. Kelly said: When a womens fed up...aint nothing you can do. Dont push her to the point where she will be fed up with you. Im sure everything will work out....just be careful of your actions.
~erica~
2007-01-11 02:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by i LuV b N mE 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋