My sister in law thinks she is better than us, remind you she is 23 and I'm 21. I have two children and her husband and herself have always been jealous over them. They didn't want to interact with our children. Know that she is pregnant what should I do? Should I just act nice and call her to see how the baby and she is? Nobody did that for me while I was pregnant. I want to be nice, but she is so snobby!
2007-01-11 02:26:58 · 16 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes, be the bigger person here. Don't allow yourself to be brought down to her level. Treat her as you would like her to treat you. And don't punish the child for the mother's behaviour!!!
2007-01-11 05:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she always snobby, or was she seriously jealous to the point of making her so? Be nice, kill her with kindness. And, if you get along with your mom in law, get close with her as well. (if it's her mom). You can only do what you feel is right! Maybe even send her a gift basket (can be small, even just a package) of something nice for her and her pregnancy. (a good book, a foot massager, some chocolates and pickles and ice cream :) )
2007-01-11 02:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jase 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to sound goody goody. But if you are nice to her it makes you the better adult. and also will make you feel better at the same time. thats the reason for your conflict. you want to do the right thing but are also mad about how you were treated and while it might seem like a good idea at the time to get the offending party back 9/10 times it doesn't end that way once you had time to sit down and think about it
2007-01-11 02:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by alixnecole 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello fourcheek! Well, I understand how you feel and it really doesn't feel good when somebody is a snob right? But if you wouldn't help her in her pregnancy and be a snob to her, too, do you think something good will happen? The answer is no, of course. I know that she is not nice but you know what, show her that you are nice and you are taught good manners and values. This isn't just for me because I adviced it and not only for yourself but also to God. Remember when we die there's nobody else that will judge us but God. I hope somehow I was able to help you. I "know" how it feels, believe me. Happy new year and God bless... ^__^
2007-01-11 02:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by kim 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I kinda went through the same thing. My family spited that I was pregnant and it bothered me. My fiance always told me that I didn't need them and just to forget about them. It is hard to to that and to see they way that families act.
in spite of it all, I can imagine that you will, no matter what, be happy for your sister and the wonderful baby she is to have. Do not stoop to her level of jealousy and do not pity her actions or choices. And if all fails, remeber that you can be better than her!
2007-01-11 02:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a bigger person than she is call her and see how your soon to be neice/nephew is.. I have one like that as well my son has only seen them at birthdays and Christmas. Its a shame you are all part of the same family ,ultimately its her loss. My cousins are like my brothers. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-01-11 02:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by NIKIPASS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i really don't like my sister in law either. she is older then me and when i was pregnant with my first son she told me i was not good enough for her younger brother. we were married at the time but it really hurt that she would say that. i have to act nice to her but my husband knows that she really is mean to me. if she were to get pregnant again i would not call her or anything. she does not deserve my time.
2007-01-11 02:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may be younger than her, but you should act like the grown-up in this situation. Be the bigger person...and just bite your tongue when you have to, she will be in your life and that is something you have to except, trust me I'm going through a similar situation with my 'in-laws' to be. Avoid her when you can, but when you can't just learn to deal with it, easier said than done.
2007-01-11 02:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be nice but, secretly inside wish that she has one grouchy little baby that grows into a grouchy teen and gives her a hard time, it won't change anything but, it may make you happy inside.
2007-01-11 05:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is a b*tch becuase she didnt come and play with your kids??? you do realize not everybody loves kids dont you?? she is having her own it will make her feel different but some people REALLY DONT LIKE KIDS..
I certainly dont (I was the oldest of 4... basically I learned to hate babies cause mom had too many of them)
you are upset she didnt call you when you were pregant... why should people call you?? its your choice to get pregnant.. its not up to everybody else to reward you for it...
maybe she was trying to have kids for a really long time and didnt think she could have kids so seeing your kids upset her...
maybe?
2007-01-11 02:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by CF_ 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋