ok im a teen mom i have a 10 month old daughter & her father loves her but did not really do n e thing 4 her & has broken my heart several times & he now wants 2 get back togeather & make things right do yall think its a good idea 2 give ppl another chance
2007-01-11 02:23:22 · 17 answers · asked by Heather'smommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well it's your deshing but if you do beside make shure you take things very slow and tell him threes a lot of things he needs to prove. First of all he needs to make his daughter his #1 priority and step up and be a dad.
2007-01-11 02:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
second chances are ok to give under certain circumstances.
just think about your baby. what will it do to her if he leaves again!? her father coming in and out of her life like that!?
but on the other hand if you dont take him back how often will he come around? and she does need a father figure in her life. it would probably be best in the long run.
this is a hard decision only you can make.
think about you and your baby before anybody else! remember he left once, or however many times. he broke your heart several times... whats to stop him from doing it again!?
think about it!!
THE BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!
2007-01-11 02:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by AC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if he's serious.It is a lot easier for a young father to still "play the game", because mommy will take on all of the hurt it can cause. Your first lines of your question basically tell me he's acting as young men (most of the time) do act and unfortunatley you have to expect that. Tell him you'd rather see him be a better parent then you guys can decide if your going to get back together. Its best for your child if she doesn't see you together,breakup,toghether,breakup. It will affect her in a few ways.BUT if you see he is not able to act right you have to leave him for your own good.
2007-01-11 02:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by rezrek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a fortunate mom you're to have such being concerned and in charge females. you should somewhat treasure them. i might want to imagine that such daughters must be rewarded with a particular lunch or dinner out once a month to take exhilaration in time far flung from the homestead and each and each and every of the better household projects. everybody needs a breather from their conventional routines. and that i'm able to't imagine of a much better thanks to have one, taking section in a particular meal such as your little ones, that you probably did not ought to make or clean up. and also you would possibly want to relax and enjoy their company. i'm particular you would possibly want to discover someone to sit down such as your son, on your getaway of an hour or so. or perchance you would possibly want to placed him right into a recliner, and prop up his leg and delivers him the distant for the television or some magazines or books, and allow him entertain himself at the same time as you're away that short at the same time as.
2016-12-02 03:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, to him it's the right thing to do, I wouldn't get married , but just date. What my husband went through was he didn't want to take care of a baby, it was too delicate for him, as soon as my son started to walk and play around 12-15 months my husband pretty much took over parenting when he was home. You can't play with a baby, once your daughter gets older your husband will appreciate the child more.
2007-01-11 02:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its always necessary to give people a second chance but when you have a child and you have to take care of them you need to be in the right state of mind. you need not let people mess with your emotions as it will only defect your ability to care for your child. if you have already given him chance after chance i would make him wait a long long time before i gave hime another chance and when you do get ready to give him another chance make sure he knows this is the last dern time and after that if he craps on you again NEVER AND I MEAN NEVER give him another chance. i hope he is paying you child support, if not you need to go get that done.
2007-01-11 02:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by merwin5236 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh darlin...i had my first daughter when i was 17 so i understand. i didn't end up with her bio dad, in fact he just signed his rights away 2 weeks ago, she'll be 3 in feb. it was horrible situation and he wanted to try and get back together when i left. i'm so glad that i didn't get back with him. he was so abusive. i don't know your exact situation, but you need to go with your gut on this one, not your heart. and it's not always the best thing to stay together for the child, it could end up hurting them in the end. i wish you all the best of luck...
2007-01-11 02:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're double guesting whether to take him back that you don't trust him... and if you don't trust him then you probably shouldn't take him back. Only you know him and what he's done. For the sake of your daughter and yourself... why put both of you thru more heartache? You don't have to take him back to be involved and to be there for your daughter.
You could try to take things slow... make him prove himself that he's serious about be part of both your lives.
Trust your gut and remember you don't need him... Good luck
2007-01-11 02:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by second time around 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should for the sake of your daughter. Just as long as their is no violence and arguing. Good luck because i know it is hard. Don't Give up and God bless!!
2007-01-11 03:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very much so. It sounds to me like he's owning up to his resposibilities. Take him back, @ least give him a chance for your daughters sake.
2007-01-11 02:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋