how to get 2 year old to stop saying no all the time?

Question

My friend and her daughter live with us she hust turned 2 and for the last 3 months all she say is no, no matter if u just look at her.it does not matter what u say or do not day.

Answer 1

She's developing a sense of self.

This ability to say no might save her life if some pervert tries to get her alone.

It's a phase. She'll grow out of it.

Answer 2

She is asserting her independence and she sees what a reaction saying no gets her. Very common.

Don't make NO an answer to the questions you ask. Instead of saying "do you want to put your jacket on?" say "it's time to put your jacket on."

Give the child choices instead of yes/no questions - "Do you want green beans or carrots?" "Do you want to wear your green shirt or your pink shirt?" If she feels more in control of her environment, she'll be less likely to meet everything with a no.

Above all, do not react, raise your voice or call attention to her No's. This will simply add fuel to the fire.

Answer 3

This is a question that has probably been asked since the beginning of time :)
I would say the best advice is just ignore it. If she knows she'll get attention from acting out, she'll continue to do it. Just smile, love her and let her grow out of this little phase.
Good luck!

Answer 4

You already have lots of good answers. But I would add that you try to ask her questions that she would rather answer 'yes' to. For example, when she wants something, like a favourite toy, ask 'Do you want this toy?' she will say no, then you say 'O.K. I'll put it away then'. I don't mean to punish her, just make a game of it. When she answers yes, she gets what she wants, when she says no, she doesn't. Don't be angry at her for saying no, many women have emotional problems, because they are afraid to say no. Have fun.

Answer 5

unfourtunatly you really don't. Almost all toddlers go through the "no" phase and all of them get through it. The best thing you can doo is take a deep breathe and bear it. YOu could try correcting her by saying, "yes" or just not responding to it. All children are different but just know that she will grow out of it.

Answer 6

You might not like this answer....but its a stage most toddlers go through. All three of mine did it. Then they progressed to the "stop it" phase, which we had to correct. They mimic the word the most that they heard the most, and when babies start walking, and exploring their world.....we say "no" ALOT! Distraction for her, or for yourself is really only answer....and lots of patience. Their littlehood is gone in a blink of an eye......give her a hug, look her in the eye and say "yes!"

Answer 7

Just a faze. Since no is the word some people say to there child the most so this is usually the first thing the child says. Just remember if a parent curses at there young child the child will do this too.

Give the kid some time, she will grow out of it and start saying something else she is taught to say. Before you know it they are teenagers....

Answer 8

This is typical for this age range. It might help if you aren't saying no all the time. Not that I mean no discipline just things like "We don't touch that" "Julie had that first" "That was hurtful" Think about it, that's all toddlers ever hear from us, it's not surprising that it's something they learn to say pretty quickly.

Answer 9

It's just a phase where kids are at the very beginning of learning their own independence. It'll drive you CRAZY for a while and then it will just as naturally fade away.

Answer 10

Sounds like age 2 doesn't it!!

Discipline her when it is not approiate to say no. We must start firm discipline when they are very little. Whatever reasonable method you use, you should use when she does anything you do not think is a good thing to do. Spanking, lightly works well for most at that age. Did for mine.

It is very hard to reason with a 2 year old.

Best of luck!