me and my bf split up for good last week, i always thought we were just gona have a bit of time apart n then get back. i was really missing him so last night i drove to his house to see him and he let me in and said we defo cant b together no more. but he grabbed my hand and took me upstairs. i was cryin so much cos i cant imagine my life without him. but i was tryin to talk to him as i didnt want to go round for sex, but he kept telling me to stop talkin and had sex with me, i was cryin as this was happenin cos all i cud think was this is gona b some other girl in his bed in a few weeks. he didnt use anything but didnt *** up me but he knows im not on any contraception as i only had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. after we had sex i went to the toilet, then went downstairs and he had my shoes, coat and bag waiting, he said 'my mates gona b home in 10 mins so u better go' i was so so so hurt, i felt so used. but this has been building up for ages, he wasnt there for me wen i was pregnant. but i love him so much i didnt wana get over him. but all i can think of is him with sum1 else, sleepin about, havin another gf, doin everything he did with me with sum1 else. i want to get it out my head but it makes me feel sick knowin he will b sleeping with other people. he moved into his new house with his mate 3 weeks ago, he knows how much i hate livin at home and he didnt even offer, after bein together 2 yrs. we have been through so much together. so i know he has his own place with his mate and i know what he will be doing and its killing me, i cant eat or anything, please help!
2007-01-11 02:01:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
liljonblaze, i didnt dump him, he ended me, he said i dont make him happy anymore and he knows if he didnt do it i wud of. i never wud of tho cos i am too soft but i did feel very unhappy with the way i was bein treated, he treated me like a princess at the beginning, and now all i can think is its gona b sum other girl that he treats like that ... i was so so so happy with him until all this
2007-01-11 02:11:34 · update #1
liljonblaze, i didnt dump him, he ended me, he said i dont make him happy anymore and he knows if he didnt do it i wud of. i never wud of tho cos i am too soft but i did feel very unhappy with the way i was bein treated, he treated me like a princess at the beginning, and now all i can think is its gona b sum other girl that he treats like that ... i was so so so happy with him until all this
2007-01-11 02:12:04 · update #2
Girl, we are women, beautiful, wonderful and amazing, and also very resilient. I know that right now this feels like the end of the world. Time will heal all wounds, I promise. I know that sounds cliche, but it is so true. You have to realize that you are an awesome person, and that any guy in the world would be so lucky to have you! From what you said in your question, it seems like you don't have very high self esteem. I mean look what you are letting him do to you!!! If you were one of my girlfriends, I would have told when he wasn't there for you while you were pregnant that you should have kicked him to the curb! True love is always there for you, and true love is unconditional. You deserve nothing less than that. You should have never went over there and had sex with him, he said that you guys definately couldnt be together....so why go up to his bedroom and sleep with him? That only added insult to your injury!!! I know from personal experience, that alot of women think that sex equals love, if he sleeps with you then he must care. MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT SEX DOES NOT EQUAL LOVE!!! Some men will sleep with someone that they dont even find attractive, much less have feelings for! It sounds like this guy is a jerk, and you deserve so much better. So get up dust yourself off, and go hang out with the girls for a while, things will get better, and when you are ready, you will find the right guy!
~*~Mindy~*~
2007-01-11 02:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by spoiledrottenchica1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why did you have sex with the guy after he told you it was over? And what are you going to do if you are pregnant again?
Take control of yourself. Don't let him or anyone else hurt you. If you keep going back over there, you're going to walk away feeling used and hurt.
Sure he's going to be sexually involved with other women, just like you will be with men. You two broke things off for a good reason. Remember that.
Grieve the relationship. Get all the anger, hurt, sadness, and loneliness out of the way, then go find the guy you were meant to be with.
2007-01-11 10:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in exactly the same position as yourself, and I don't envy you right now. It completely broke my heart, and because I kept going back for more it took me a couple of years to move on.
What your ex did (sleeping with you after the break-up and making you leave straight afterwards) is appauling. He will know how much you love him, and he's taking advantage of that. What kind of person has sex with someone who's crying during it? I think it shows that he's not interested in if you enjoy it. This will go on for as long as he gets another girlfriend and I can guarantee you, that as soon as that happens, you'll be left out in the cold. It wouldn't surprise me if he's sleeping around just now.
I know that what I'm saying isn't exactly going to be a comfort to you, but looking back, when I was going through it I wish I had someone to tell me how it was.
I found it almost impossible to cope with the thought of him being with another girl, doing and saying things with her that he did with me, it almost drove me insane. How did I overcome it? by getting out there and socialising with men and women. After doing that for a while I realised that there are more interesting, decent people out there and when you find another bloke, you'll realise that.
You must try not to go back, or else you'll never move on. I was 18 at the time. I'm now 25 and I'm with one of the most decent, amazing blokes I've ever met, and it will happen for you one day.
2007-01-11 10:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by donna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, girl. It's obvious he's selfish, and he's using you, AND you're letting him do it.
Stand up for yourself, and think about taking care of #1 first. #1 (yourself) is the most important person to you right now.
Let him go, and go on with your life. See things you want to see and do things you want to do.
There WILL be other, better, fish. Fish that you can tell really like to be around you. Fish that won't just "use" you. Fish that will cling on and always want to be around you.
And when you meet one, you'll think about how stupid this old boyfriend really is.
2007-01-11 10:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by hcgalvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself, first. Second, figure out what is good for YOU. You don't need that crap. Any man that only wants you around for sex and can't support you when you are having a hard time like dealing with being pregnant isn't good for YOU. He wouldn't be good for YOU he wouldn't be good for the BABY. Do you really want to get into a situation like that? PLEASE Stop now and pay attention to what you are saying. THINK GIRL.
2007-01-11 10:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him your gave him the freedom to do whatever he wants mabey you should have thought about this befor you broke his heart.....to be honest with you hunny you need to get on birth control first and fore most and second you need to move on you ended it so live with it go out with you firends and have a good time and smile because i bet you look alot better when your smiling then crying
2007-01-11 10:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really know how u feel i am going through the same thing to all i can tell u is keep praying and be strong ok. i know it hurt but try ok.
2007-01-11 10:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont kno wut to tell u that will help ... but he sounds like an asshole and u shouldnt lose sleep over him .... he just used you
2007-01-11 10:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by lil_loca_0410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋