My step-dad and my mom bought my brother a brand new 2007 Harley Davidson, knowing I have a p.o.s car and I am going to work everyday and school at night with a baby, they refused to help me even get my car fixed. They know I don't have the money to get it fixed right now because I am paying off student loans and such. Buying diapers and all the baby needs. Do you think its fair that they told me to suck it up and deal with it. Heck, he hasnt even been living with us for 2 weeks and as soon as he got here they went right down to H.D. He doesnt have a job and then he wants to drive my car all reckless like. I dont think its fair. Knowing my situation they turned me down in a quickness.
2007-01-11 01:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Btw I pay Rent and help out on the bills. They do not watch my child, i pay for her daycare. I just recently moved back in. My brother is a slacker and doesnt do crap.
2007-01-11 02:14:03 · update #1
Graduated high school, now im my 2nd year of college.
2007-01-11 02:16:32 · update #2
I don't really have an answer for you but I just wanted to give you my sympathy. It doesn't soud right what there doing but did you ever think maybe they doing it for a good reason. It sounds to me that you have pretty goohead on your shoulders and have taking of business all along and they know your brother is a slacker ans really going no where. They feel they have to take care of him. They know you are a strong woman.
2007-01-11 02:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not fair that you have to support your step dad. Life is not fair but you seem to be doing a great job out of all the people you have mentioned in being a responsible adult. Just remember how hard you are working and do not think about your family taken advantage over you because one day you will graduate college and have a place of your own with your child. Then when you do your step dad , your mom and your brother can no longer take advantage of you. Keep up the good work and just remember that you are the one doing the good.
2007-01-11 03:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a parent of 4. my opinion is for whatever reason their trying to buy your brother which in the long run will back fire on them. i have a lot of respect for you. you are trying to better yourself by going to school and taking full responsibility for your baby. they are trying to teach you to stand on your own and by the sounds of it you are doing a great job! good for you. as far as your brother goes, don't let him drive your car, if he wrecks it then your out of a car and can't get back and forth to work & school, i believe in tough love but this is awfully one sided, you deserve to have some help as well, why would they want you and your child driving around in an unsafe car? i always have safety first when it comes to my children, no matter how old they are! keep up the good work little one, you will become a success! and you will also know that you did it on your own, be proud of yourself and i wish you all the luck in the world!
2007-01-11 02:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by christine z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily "fair", but it's their money, and no offense, but they don't owe you anything. Your life is your responsibility. If you live with them, then you should be thankful that they're taking you and your baby in. Do they watch the baby for you while you're at school and at work? If so, then it sounds to me like they do more than enough for you. My suggestion is to finish school, then move out, start your own life, and take care of yourself and your baby. Being unmarried and having a baby is going to make life harder for you than if you went to school, graduated, and then got married and had a baby.
2007-01-11 02:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Fair"? In a moral sense yes, but it's your parents money and they can do with it what they please and its none of your business.
Sorry to be blunt, but your parents obligation to you ended the minute you turned 18. We have this "issue" in my family as well - my parents are always bailing my brother out of his problems. No skin off my teeth - everything I have I worked for and I am damn proud of that. No amount of money that my parents spent on my brother will ever buy the one thing that I have that he does not - self-respect.
(I love my parents and I understand their need to help out their son - no biggie to me. The only persons money who is any of my business if my own!)
2007-01-11 02:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they weren't going to provide you with an actual vehicle , the least they could have done was transported you to where you needed to get to on a daily/weekly basis or whatever.
2007-01-11 02:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, doesn't sound fair to me! Don't let your brother drive your car! Just tell him NO!!
2007-01-11 02:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound very unfair.
2007-01-11 02:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Militant Agnostic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋