To cut a long story short: I broke up with my boyfriend because he was always with his friends, never rang etc, then we met up to see where wanted to from here. I told him i didnt come to get with him, just came to sort things out, so he flipped and said 'so you dont want to be with me?'...Then said he couldnt be with me because there was too much hurt and couldn't stand it if i finished with him, then said 'How could you smile at that kid when i wanted it all with you, it hurts me'. He was crying constantly, and could barely look at me. So i exepted the fact he couldnt see a future with me. I havent contacted him...then on monday, he msged me on MSN saying he feels like **** and asked if we could talk, so i asked about what, he said how you are etc. Then the next day he did the same again, but saying he's not good, and that he's fucked things up, and he's weak, i made him strong...then 'Im so sorry Kay. I will love you forever'. Left it at that. Then he text my mum yesterday saying...
2007-01-11 01:54:39 · 19 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...'Hi Pauline. How are you and Jorden? How's Kay? I didnt want things to turn out like this. I love your daughter so much, i did what i did because i didnt want to hurt her anymore. She deserves more than me. Thank you for all your kindness and friendliness. Thanks again'...I don't understand why he has to message her now...when we first broke up she text him and he never replied to her...so why now? Why does he have to speak to me? It breakes my heart...reminds me of everything all over again. I took on board what he said and i haven't contacted him, so why is he doing this to me?
2007-01-11 01:59:49 · update #1
Sweetie, he's just realized what he had lost and is desperate to bring you back. He is trying to manipulate you into giving him another chance. That is why he is texting your mother as well.
Hey, and it works!!!!You are confused aren't you??You are thinking about him.......on the other hand, are you over him?
Do you know for sure that you do not want to get back together?
Figure out for yourself what you want.
If you still love him and can forgive him for what he has done and you believe he has changed, then maybe you can give it another try?????But it is only up to you to decide! Everyone deserves a second chance, but you have to be sure they are really sorry and prepared to never go back to their old ways.
If you do not have any feelings left for him, or simply do not believe he could have changed, then just ignore his messages, and he will eventually give up!
I know it seems a bit brutal, but from you have written here, I just don't think that anything else will work with this guy. You can try explaining that it is over first, but if he keeps trying to contact you, then just stop reacting to his attempts whatsoever.
Be strong and good luck xx
2007-01-11 02:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were going out and then you broke up with him. It's sounds like he's not taking it very well, which is understandable if you put yourself in his shoes. That means thinking about another person for a little while.
He's trying to communicate that he is very hurt. Which is an ok thing to do. If you no longer wish to see him, you need to tell him this directly, either by phone or in person. Don't ignore, as that would make it much more worse.
So instead of wondering what he is doing to YOU, step out of yourself, explain why you dumped him and tell him that you never want to hear from him again. It might hurt him that little bit more, but he will get over it much more quickly than by just ignoring him.
COMMUNICATE.
After you have told him this, feel free to ignore him.
If he takes it any further after that, call the police.
2007-01-11 03:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you boyfriend is really confused and not sure, when messenging you and apologizing for his behavior, and the fact that he still loves, and wants to talk more then you should give him the benefit of the doubt and talk to him, he may have something that he would like to get off his chest and may want you input. If you decide to talk to him look him in the eyes and that might tell you whether he is being sincere or not. If he is not and just trying to get you back for no reason, then decide what is more important to you. Working it out or moving on. Probably all the things he said might have just been clearly out of anger and he did not mean it. When a guy is angry he will say things he does not mean. It is up to you to make the decision, but at least hear him out.
2007-01-11 02:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you wanna do.
If you want to see him again then see him!
Just be aware that people don't change so you will have to accept him the way he is! A bit of a drama queen!
I don't think he is as bad as he says, its just for effect probably! But if he genuinely loves you - you will know!
So do what you want to do and appreciate his good points and put up with the bad!
xxxx
2007-01-11 02:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a psycho on your hands. My ex used to do that. He was just one big emotion when we would get into arguments. Save yourself and get away from him. This is the signs of possessive behavior. He is blaming himself for being the cause and this will inevitably end up being your fault in his eyes later on. Trust me, I had to have my ex arrested for stalking me for 2 years after I broke up with him. Get away while you can and find someone who doesn't have so much drama. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-11 02:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get into that and stop with him
its most of that times that way , after losing they regret and saying sorry and i want to know how u are
this story will have no good end so better stop all the contact
best wishes to u
2007-01-11 02:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't even need to know what he txt your mother yesterday.
Stay away from this potential psycho!! I mean it. I once read a story about a girl who finished with her boyfriend and he went crazy, went to her house and shot her, then killed himself!! they were only young!!
Please, he needs serious help. Warn him a few times to stay away from you then if he continues to harrass you or your mother, get an injunction against him. No matter what feelings you have for this boy, he is going a little bit crazy and you do not want to be on the receiving end of his madness whether physical or mental. - STAY AWAY!!!
2007-01-11 02:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the most part it sounds as if he is being juvenile. He needs to grow up. If you meant a lot to him he wouldn't of blown you off to hang with his friends, and now that you told him to get lost he's telling you and your mom that he feels like **** and hes weak and blah blah blah.. don't listen to him. You can do much better.
2007-01-11 02:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
properly with 2 failing marriages and leaving you for somebody else after a year of relationship, AND he cherished you considering that undemanding college, and after years later "nonetheless having emotions for you" I doubt that. I wouldnt choose for it. He feels like a gadget.
2016-12-12 09:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by anirudh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's immature and childish and looking for sympathy, he sounds like he neds a good kick up the backside, tell him to grow up
2007-01-11 02:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Chunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋