My daughter had her tonsils removed in the midle of December. She is five years old. A week later she woke up early in the morning and threw up blood which scared her and I half to death. She almost had to have a blood transfusion, that's how much she threw up. Anyway, that scared her so much that she is afraid to go to bed at night thinking she will go through the same thing. She had surgery again the day before Christmas eve and has not had problems since then. How can I convince her that she's okay and will not throw up blood again? It's not her fault, but I just want to see my baby girl happy again.
2007-01-11 01:49:17 · 10 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This may sound completely unconventional here. But this worked for many things with my 3 sons when they were small for all sorts of things.
I made name badges. One for them, and one for me. I told them that the bug that was trying to get them will come to me if I have their name on me. And it worked because the bug thought that they were me, and I them. lol
I know it sounds odd, but slowly it might help.
2007-01-11 01:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by ,,!,,baddest~lil~b!tch,,!,, 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they decide what had caused her to vomit blood? And was the problem fixed and corrected by surgery?
If you can explain that to her it may help her feel more confident in her situation.
It will take time, and much reassurance to get her her confidence back. In the mean time, dont change her routine, dont take her from her bed to yours, and dont get in the habit of putting her to sleep by rubbing or sitting or laying with her. Its hard not to, but doing so will only make things much harder in the long run.
Education on her part can be the biggest asset you can give her. Let her know how her body works, what tonsils do, how theyre removed, why a person bleeds, how its fixed, and why doctors are able to fix things like bleeding too much. Explain to her how her body heals itself quickly when things are done right (as they are now), How her body must have sleep to heal, and how in just a couple more weeks it will be like she never even had surgery.
Then she can have understanding and reassurance that her body is functioning as it ought to.
2007-01-11 01:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mybe get her a special teddy bear or something of the sort, and tell her it wil be her "body guard". Kids that age are still into stuff like that and will likely relate to the "super bear" that will sleep with them. Good luck and I hope all is now well. What caused the bleeding in the first place?
2007-01-11 02:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Dr. Mendelssohn said, Malpractice is the only kind we have.
What butcher is still removing tonsils? Read Mendelssohn's book HOW TO RAISE A HEALTHY BABY IN SPITE OF YOUR PEDIATRICIAN. It takes time for one to get over an insult of this magnitude. Try to be patient with the child, it wasn't her fault.
2007-01-11 02:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by assuring her that since she has gone this long without throwing up blood, it means she has healed the right way and there is nothing to be afraid of. Ask her if she wants you to lay with her just to make sure and when she doesnt throw up blood agian tell her SEE I knew you were all better!!!
2007-01-11 01:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her sleep with you for a few nights (explaining that after a few nights she sleeps in her own bed) to comfort her fears. That way if something does happen your right there. Just a thought. Good luck
2007-01-11 02:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that one of the most important things to remember is that you must display calm confident behavior when talking to her about this. When she sees that you are sure that she is fine than eventually she will feel the same. So many times when we panic it causes our children to as well. But when you show confidence she will to.
2007-01-11 02:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know you are trying to convince her have you ever tried to have a sleep over for her like her friends or relatives that might relax her knowing someone else her age is in the room with her.I hope she gets better
2007-01-11 01:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by I wish I could......... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reassuring her that she is ok and that you love her and before you know it she'll be sleeping normally again. And I don't blame her for being scared. Such trauma for such a young girl.
2007-01-11 01:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something you can go sleep with her and tell her everything will be ok and you'll protect her.
2007-01-11 01:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋