Is 20 too young to have a baby and does it really matter if you are not married?

Answer 1

I guess I will play devils advocate and get thumbs down for my answer. I don't think so. Marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring. Doesn't mean you will stay together. 50% of marriages end in divorce. How can that be better than a committed relationship? And I don't think 20 is too young. If you can provide emotionally, mentally and physically for the child then do it. Whatever you want. Life is far to short to worry about what judgmental people think. Good luck

Answer 2

It's not too young if the person is ready. At 20 you can work, rent a home and do all the things necessary to support a baby unlike say a 16 yr old mother. It does matter if you are married because why make a commitment like a child to "test" the relationship out? It's a backwards way of doing things. Not enough people are getting married before they plan babies and of course the divorce rate is up as well as the children born out of wedlock. A child is something that bonds you to someone else forever... so make sure that the person you have a baby with is someone you respect and think will be a good parent. If the person isn't good enough to marry then the odds are they won't be a good parent.

Answer 3

I had my first baby at 19, so no its not too young. I am in a very stable long term relationship with my sons dad, and marraige has never been a question in our relationship yet (been dating nearly 4 years) and we agreed when we found out i was pregnant that we would still take our relationship at the rate we wanted to, and we have. It doesnt matter if you are married no, some people have old fashioned views. but that doesnt mean you should go out and get pregnant just by anybody either. A baby needs a stable environment and a very loving environment to grow up in :) im not saying you wouldnt love any child you bring into this world, there is just so much to think about and consider before having a baby!
Good Luck with everything

Answer 4

I agree with mle32005♥'s answer, marriage IS just a piece of paper and a ring, it's not a binding contract. Nowadays their is VERY little you can't do as a committed long-term couple that you can't as a married couple. I've been with my bf for 19 months and I am not planning on marrying him anytime soon. I see no reason for it. I don't think 20 is too young to have a baby age is just a number. I think if your responsible enough to, have a job, have a car, and a place of your own to live where you pay the bills then your ready to have a baby.

Answer 5

I was definitely too young at 20!!! Looking back (I'm 31 now) I was just a child, but this can change from person to person. I always lived a very protected life and depended on my parents a lot...I was not mature enough for it. It all depends on if you really want one and if you can support it mentally and financially. It can emotionally be very difficult to be a one parent family and with financial difficulties even worse. You will need a lot of people around you that can support you and step in when you will need help!
I hope you will make the choice which is best for you...but really think about all the pro's and con's. Remember that you youth will be over and you will also have a more difficult time meeting someone new! You will be second-hand!!!

Answer 6

Assuming you are referring to yourself...

No and yes and no, definitely not too young if you are ready for the sacrifices that raising a child demands. You may be missing out on school and partying. Your friendships may take different directions. However, you will have the energy necessary to raise a child. Hopefully you will also have the support of your family. Does marriage matter? I parented alone for 4 years after having my son at 20, never involving my son's father. I eventually married a wonderful man who is amazing with my son, but we still went through many emotional "you're not my real Dad"s when he was young. We had our daughter when I was 32 and sometimes I feel I lack the energy to be as active with her as I was with my son.

Answer 7

i was 19 when i had my son,and have been with my fiance for 4 years.(and planning to get married in 3 years time) i don't think 20 is too young ONLY if your 100% ready...you BOTH need to be physically and mentally ready before you decide on something like this..trust me!! i have been there!
my baby was planned and some of you may think i am stupid and that's your choice.
my son has always been a much wanted child and i have been able to cope with everything that having a child does! i am able to buy everything my son needs as we made sure we were financially prepared aswell before we went ahead. i get no support from family and hardly EVER go out,and i never moan about it as i took that into consideration too. my son is a very happy and contented child..and if i do say so myself, he is looked after by a very good mum and dad.
babies are hard work and some people these days seem to only want babies as some kind of fashion accessory, and soon get bored when they realise what its really like.
babies are lovely and may seem "easy" when you can give them back to their mum..but having one with you for the rest of your life is not an easy job, its a job your going to have for the rest of your life,and although babies are sweet and cute..what happens when they are not babies anymore and they become teenagers??still think its gonna be easy then??
this will probably be the most important decision of your life so choose it wisely keeping the babys welfare in mind!

goodluck to you x

Answer 8

20 is so young, but I am not about to say it's too young to handle the responsibility because having a child for most people forces them to grow up pretty quick.

My only advice to you is to wait if you aren't pregnant already. There is so much more living to do and things to see that will for the most part be unavailable to you as a young unmarried mother. There's college, nights out with the girls, dates, etc. - all things that will be infinitely harder to do if you have to find a babysitter for your child in order to go out the door.

As for the married thing, I think we live in a different society than we even did just 20 years ago - it's so much more accepted now than when I was 19. That doesn't mean it's easier though.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

I dont think its too young I was 21 when our daughter was born I was married, but I have a few friends that have babies and are not married. But it just really depends on if you are ready to have a baby, money wise and maturity. It takes alot to be a mom. So the question really isnt about the age its if you are ready and if you can handle it.

Answer 10

That depends on the maturity level of the 20 year old and yes it matters if you aren't married. According to statistics children born into a home with two parents who are married to each other have an advantage over those who don't. Also if a man is willing to commit to marriage it's more likely he'll be mature enough to help raise children. I think that matters.

Answer 11

God's plan for family includes a mother and father for every child. If you are married, I think a baby is a blessing, even at 20. However, being single, 20 and with child would be very very difficult. Babies are fun, but there is so much stress is child rearing, you really need the support of a hubby...and a good one! If you are 20, single and pregnant and not wanting the baby, may I suggest adoption rather than abortion. There are many families wanting babies!