i have fell in love with this lad at work he is gorgeous it was our works christmas du just before crimbo we ended up getting of with each other and nearly going back to a hotel the next day he says he cant remember anything i see him everyday at work and he is ace he likes me as a mate he wants to take me out for a drink sometime but whenever i say a time to go he tells me he is busy what am i suposed to think he dont even talk to me at work its so complicated help please xxx
2007-01-11 01:09:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was drunk looking for a little action for the love of the sport........he is not interested
2007-01-11 01:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Foss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were ok to get off with at the party but he is not looking to get into anything with you. I would back off completely. You have to work with this bloke and carrying on trying to get himto take you out could make you 1) look foolish and 2) get you a reputation at work and if he is sending out signals that he is "busy" then he is clearly trying to say thanks but no thanks in a nice way.
Leave him alone. If I am wrong then it might be you are being too needy and he will ask you in his own time. Either way you have to think about the signs you are sednding out. You see your colleagues 8 hours a day to have the rumour mill working overtime whether you have done something or not is not a nice thing.
2007-01-11 09:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have a job that doesn't require any grammar skills because you suck at it. As far as office relationships they can be pretty complicated if you are not mature enough to handle it. You are supposed to maintain a level of professionalism and keep your emotions under wraps. It looks like you can't handle it so just let it go and find someone that you do not work with.
2007-01-11 09:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may want to avoid a relationship with a workmate. It is easy to start that initial fling, but then reality sets in about the consequences of if it doesn't work out...it will make his worklife difficult for him. Have a chat with him and get a resolution. The only way.
2007-01-11 09:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by William W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Take him aside and ask him if he remember's and if he would like to continue what the both of you started. Or if he would just like to go have a drink. It may be that he doesn't want to fraternize at work. Try slipping him your number and tell there's something you'd like to discuss with him. Maybe he's just uncomfortable speaking about it at work.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-11 09:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
three options i can think of:
- send him an email asking him out again
- next time he says you should go for a drink, ask him where and when or tell him he always says that but never says where and when
- get over him cos it sounds like hes messing u about or doesnt know what he wants
2007-01-11 09:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by john9999999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think of going out or sleeping with someone you work with. That's a no-go. If things don't work out between the two of you things at work might be a bit uncomfortable.
2007-01-11 11:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amber,
I think this guy is not so hot on you as you are with him. Relationships at work never really work out and it sounds like he is giving you the cold shoulder.
Don't waste your time with him.
2007-01-11 09:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from personal experience..... don't go there, leave him to it and move on. If you did go out, and things didn't work it would be even more complicated.
2007-01-15 08:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Kat S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that he isnt really interested and stringing you along(mind games)if i was you id not bother with this person you can do alot better and find a person who will treat you better,please dont be offended but is this lad seeing someone?or maybe hes just cruel and trying to see if he can have his cake(sex that is)dont let this bloke do it to you .hes ignorrant,and playing you along!!!
2007-01-11 09:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see when u try to talk to him he says his busy sooo u hang out with some1 else n if it dosen't work then avoid him then c how he follows u everywhere.
2007-01-11 09:15:28 · answer #11 · answered by kabir_fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋