ok last night my boyfriends friend was over and somehow we all
started talkin about cheatin and i cheated in the very beginning of our relationship when he was on drugs and never spent time with me!!! Not that it makes it right but he wasnt doin what he needed to do!! Now hw wont let me have any friends or go anywhere with anyone besides my mom and is constantly accussing me of doin something wrong!!! Ive asked him to just leave me alone but he wont!! His friend said that i was a cold hearted bi%$h and that i need trouble stamped across my head!!! Thats messed up because we were doin fine by ourself we worked a lot of things out since then and now his friend had to give his 2 cents and now im mad because i feel like he should have said something!! Am i1 wrong? I really am tryin to make this work!!! Ive made sacrafices!
2007-01-11 01:08:58 · 10 answers · asked by smokedayz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said he was into drugs, and are you as well?
You will never have a solid relationship if both of you are chemically dependent. Perception of reality is twisted.
Why are you concerned what his friends think anyway? You're not dating them. They don't sign your paycheck or pay your bills so who cares? If they don't give you any respect in your home, then kick their loser butt's out. If your "man" doesn't have the spine to say anything about it, he can hang out on the porch with the other dogs.
2007-01-11 01:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to ignore what so called friends say and work things out on your own. If your boyfriend doesn't want to do that, you might consider moving on. I know that is hard but sometimes you just have to. It will take him a long, long time before he can completely trust you again and you'll just have to be patient. But I wouldn't let a friend run their mouth, I would tell them real quick that it's none of their business and to keep their mouth shut. Take up for yourself, don't wait for someone else to do it for you. I think your boyfriend will respect you for it.
2007-01-11 09:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing fine by yourselves. By the fact that he's so controlling, it's clear he hasn't gotten over what you did yet. Being a prisoner doesn't atone for what you did, it just makes for a shitty relationship. Hint: when owning up to something you did, don't ever follow up any of your confessions with "but". Makes you sound insincere. Don't worry about what his friend said. Focus on what's going one between you two.
2007-01-11 09:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him .. he was no right 2 do that u ..
u are ur own person..
an his friend has no say
pull him aside an make him feel like a dumb a** ...
dont change urself 4 him no more
hang wit ur friends before u loose them... u can find someone better .. an who is not that controlling
2007-01-11 09:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dez DrOp DeAd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me guess, you are now going to try and drive him away from his friend, what a mole, dont run from problems solve them, thats what men do because we are cool
2007-01-11 09:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by King Tomala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! And his freind is a jerk, and he has no right to tell you who you can hang out with and who you can't hang out with. Don't take that crap.
2007-01-11 09:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by Brookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to break up with him and stop doing sacrifices and get a new bf who will care and sacrifice things for you!
2007-01-11 09:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell the jerk off. i would dump my b/f if he wouldn't let me go anywhere, or have anyfriends.
2007-01-11 09:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by psychopathic bi*ch. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way
2007-01-11 09:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if U don't like this...tell him!
2007-01-11 09:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋