Women Only Please?

Question

whats the difference between 'having sex' and 'making love'???
isnt a 'quickie' often as good as a long drawn out all night 'love making' please tell me, i need to know!! some people say there ought to be foreplay and all that good stuff, and whats so wrong with falling asleep right after you BOTH have an orgasm??...... well you answer

reason i asked was because i had this girlfriend long ago, and whenever we made love, she would say to me..'make 'love to me,'.. i always thought i was doing just that, cos i did all the kissing and touching and what nots, but the moment i strat to go inside her doing the real stuff she would go on saying make love to me.. like i hadnt done the little bits yet!! so i got confused and always wanted an answer.. thanks to you guys for your answers, brilliant all of them, except the dog faced person...

Answer 1

My wife tells me that it is the feeling behind the act that makes the difference, is it love or a bathroom function?

Answer 2

I think the difference is that you can have sex with the one you love, but you can't make love with a one night stand.
Like most women, I like "foreplay and all that good stuff", but I like quickies just as well. Variety is very important. There should be both...

To be honest, I like making love (couldn't live without it), but I prefer having sex. Having sex doesn't necessarily mean a quickie, to me it means: getting a bit more rough.

Nothing wrong with falling asleep after both had an orgasm. Nothing wrong with doing it all night long neither.
Here too, variety is the key word.

Answer 3

The difference between "having sex" & "making love" has nothing to do with the length of the action. You could be in love with someone & still have a quickie with them [as long as they find it ok]. Making love as the term implies happens when you're IN LOVE with someone, when you're EMOTIONALLY attached to them. On the other hand you can HAVE SEX with anybody whether or not you're emotionally attached - just physical.

Whether you have foreplay or not, or you fall asleep after an orgasm or not can apply in both circumstances. It's always better however to try to arouse your partner before digging in & also show appreciation with kisses & caress even after you've got what you were after [an orgasm]. A gentleman who cares for his patner would do that.

Answer 4

It depends on how long you have been with the person. If it's your first time together, then making it quick isn't the best approach. But after you've proven to the person that you are willing and able to be slow and romantic, then it's okay to mix it up.

But if the person tells you and/or you know that slow is what she likes then you might have to slow things down a bit. Honestly, I've been with men who have made quickies incredibly romantic and passionate, as they were very skilled and articulate in the words and moves of love.

Answer 5

the difference is that having sex is more of a physical satisfaction thing whereas making love is more emotional. yes, sometimes a quickie is as good as a long night of making love, as long as BOTH of you are in the mood for a quickie and the quickies don't replace the emotional making love. as far as falling asleep, just don't do it until you've held her and talked for a few minutes. if she's sleepy right after, then fine, go to sleep.

Answer 6

Well, quickies are just for fun while "love making" has the sole and specific reason of doing it because you love each other and want to feel close together. The problem of falling asleep right after is that you might be done after one go, but she may be already prepared for another.

Answer 7

For me...the difference is that having sex is simply filling the need, one or both of us are needing the release, and as you said, generally we both fall asleep after orgasm, not a whole lot of heart & flowers, it's loving, but not terribly romantic (if that makes sense) where as making love is the whole seduction, lots of foreplay, lots of cuddling and maybe talking afterwards. To me it really depends on where the focus is...if it's on the intercourse and everything else kind of falls to the background...then it's sex, if the intercourse is a small part of the whole experience, then it's making love.

One more thing I really feel that i must add...within our marriage, we both initiate and enjoy both (so no...my DH is not "dragged" into the whole romance and roses thing just to get sex, nor am I "subjected" to just getting sex when he could be romancing me...yadda yadda yadda) All of that meaning that, not all women NEED the whole "making love" experience every time, all comes down to what needs both people involved are needing to have taken care of :)

Hope that helps

Answer 8

Having sex is with someone you are not in love with.... although you can have sex with someone you are in love with also- more of a spontaneous thing i think(even better). Making love is exactly that... you are in love with this person- it means so much more. I dont think there is a wrong or right answer here- all that matters is that you are in it for the right reasons. It all depends on the couple- different people like different things.

Answer 9

I'm ready to go to bed after.
We have quickies most of the time anyways.
A long drawn out session would be nice everynow and then.
We always refered to it as having sex.
We love each other so it's all special, quickies or all not is not a reality I don't think.
I think we'd rather do our thing and get some sleep, haha.

Answer 10

Having sex is a "quickie in the kitchen".

Making Love, however, is a whole day in the bedroom. Be together, fall asleep for an hour, wake up, do it again, then again, then sleep some more, make coffee in bed, do "it" again, then take a nap, wake up, do "it" again, etc.

Quickies are for maintenance purposes only.

Answer 11

Im not a girl but i have insight. Ok, sex is just just that no emotions atatched. just get your jollys off and leave. thats sex. makeing love, is useually longer becouse you don't want to leave them. your like one with the other person. You read eachother and know what the others thinking with out words just body language. you have to be in love to make love for the most part. thats about as good of a answer as you ganna get though.