8 yr. old little boy?

Question

My son hates school, he always has, at night before his bath he starts yelling and screaming and saying he hates school. When I ask why it is because the food tastes bad or he hates to get up early, does anyone have this same problem or any suggestions. Thanks.

Answer 1

well, when i was 8 i hated school, its natural. there may not be a reason why he doesn't want to go- he may not be being bullied. If his grades are good and his teachers haven't reported anything unusual, I wouldn't suspect a problem like that.
It is more likely that he has a video game or something else at home he wants to do or play, or that he isn't going to bed early enough and needs more sleep.
You could try buying him lunch that he likes, and brownbagging, if nothing else eliminating the reasons hes given you as to why he doesn't want to go. It will help to narrow down the true source of his not wanting to go to school, if indeed there is one.
A lot of kids have social anxiety issues too- maybe there is a class that he has to talk in front of or something he is uncomfortable with. i'd suggest sitting down with him and kind of going over his day- don't approach it as a debriefing- just say you are interested and want to know what a regular day's schedule is like for him- you may learn something

Answer 2

When my son started Kindergarten, he would come home everyday and gush about his day. It was a routine we had set up, and it was clockeork. Then when he started Grade 1, after a couple of months, he would stop talking about his day no matter how hard we pushed. He was coming home with huge bruises on his chest, and he would tell me that he "fell". It wasn't until he started having migranes(migranes on a 6 yr old!) that he finally fessed up that he was being bullied.
We went down to the school and found out that not only was he being bullied, but his tormentor was 13 yrs old!
He never wanted to get up in the morning, would say he hated school, etc. Now that he is in a new school, he absolutely loves it, he gets up in the morning and can't wait to get on the bus. he is back to telling us all about his day again, and he is really happy again.
I would look into what is going on. When my son was being bullied, my husband and I would take turns going down to the school and just observing(we never let our son know we were there), and we were amazed at what we saw.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

When you son says that he "hates" school, that right there is a Red Flag!!! Something is not right at all. First of all does he take the bus to & from school? If so, I suggest talking to the bus driver on that route to find out what is going on. Secondly, his teacher (where does he sit, is there someone bothering him while he is doing his work, etc). Lastly, talk to the principal. Set up a meeting with the principal, his teacher, your son, and yourself. Have your son express his feelings with interruption. If I were you, I would do this asap. Sounds like your son is in the 3rd grade like mine and this is a very important grade. May have to take off work for a day to walk in your son's shoes. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Yeah! I don't know many little boys that really like school. Usually the reaction is not quite this bad. Have you tried visiting with the school cou8nselor to see if there is any other problem he is having at school? Also the counselor might be able to offer more specific help in getting him to not react so strongly that would be tailored to your situation.

Remember, it is hard to reason with an 8 yr old, so you may have to be firm with him about not throwing tantrums about school since he must go.

Start with the counselor first. Me with her without him present.

Good luck!

Answer 5

i was going through that with my 8 yo daughter. come to find out that is a bully on the bus. it started where she didn't want to go to school in first grade, than she moved up to second and she started with, can you pick me up and that's when i realized it was the bus. the same girl was in her first grade class but was also on the bus. so that's why it was only the bus the year after. i found out cause when i was putting her to sleep one night, i asked her if anyone was bothering her, that it was ok to tell me and i would fix it all. well i did, i went to the school and spoke to the bus driver. now she absolutely loves school and no more problems. i also went to the bus stop of the little girl and spoke to her mother. that is what stopped the whole bullying thing. good luck.

Answer 6

Have someone that your son looks up to to talk to him and see if they can find out the real reason behind it if he isnt tellin you. Then talk to the school counselor and his teacher. There is something at school that is makin him not want to go, and most cases it is probably a bully. My daughter had the same problems, and it turned out to be the teacher who was the bully. (Hard to believe, I know, but her teacher really did not like her) My son ended up with the same teacher and we had the same problems, unfortunately, the school had "issues" about me switching teachers. They wanted to ignore my complaints because they didnt want to offend the teacher. But my persistance paid off in the end.This year, thankfully, my kids have wonderful teachers and are doing so well. And they love school. Whatever you do, dont settle for a generic answer from the school, keep calling and keep visiting until things are going better for your son.

Answer 7

Wait a minute, you mean there are kids who do NOT hate school?!? I thought everyone hated school! I am now 31 yrs old and I used to do the same kind of thing when I was in school. Nobody bullied me or made me eat bad food, I just hated it!

Answer 8

go to school and find out whats going on have him talk to the guidence person at school. this should not be going on. maybe hes having trouble in one subject and does not want to tell you maybe someone is bulling him. PROTECT your child.