My boyfriend has been living with me for 3 months now, i didnt invite him, he just didnt go home. The thing is that i started to feel irritated with him, and i dont feel anything for him anymore. I started to get uesed to him. I dont know why i feel like this, but i do and he says that he is in love with me and i dont know how i feel. We've been going out for almost 3 months now and i think by this time i should know how ui feel. Theres just not that spark annymore. Please!!! What should i do.
2007-01-11 00:40:24 · 19 answers · asked by Lizzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never understood people who cohibit when they hardly know the person. It is new love. He was suppose to give you bufflies in the tummy with the late night phone calls and the sweet nothings he would whisper when you meet. You miss the daydreams and sleepless nights thinking about him. This relationship moved from being a new born to being a matured adult. You just miss the teenage feeling about it. Let him know. If he gets mad, then fine, he can move out. If he understands and goes home and love you from there, then good for you still. It works both ways for you!
2007-01-11 00:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are feeling this because you are starting to get to know your bf more and the more you get to know him, the more you find out how he isnt the person you want to be with. The best way to deal with this is to let him know that you need him to go back to his home as you didnt really invite him over. Tell him that you arent breaking up with him but you just some time alone because you are falling out of love for him and you want to assess whether you can still bring back the love or not. You might want to tell him that if he stays, he has to start helping out with the chores as well as expenses of the household.
2007-01-11 00:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i fink u rushed fings, in new relationships u need 2 take fings slow, the less u c of them the more feelings u have 4 them as u miss them etc and it is quite sweet and special wen u c each ova after bein apart 4 a few days. mayb if u asked im if u cud have a break, or y dnt u stay at 1 of ur friends 4 a wile mayb and c if u get any feelings bak?! if not jus tell im, he wud probs rather know the truth even if it does hurt him. gd luck x
2007-01-11 00:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by xoxpwincess.zoxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By three months you should know if you want to continue this relationship. 3 months is a very short period of time to be living together too, whether planned or unplanned. If it is possible to kick him out maybe you can sort through your feelings. More space may give you the source for your answers.
2007-01-11 00:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would recommend is telling him that you don't feel comfortable having him living with you - explain that you never invited him to live with you in the first place (you made a huge mistake by letting this happen to begin with).
It sounds to me like the relationship is already doomed. You just need to be strong enough to tell him what you do and don't want.
2007-01-11 00:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion with him and tell him that you need your own space back! then see how you feel once he has moved out. It might just be that you are irratated by him at the moment and that is why you feel that you don't have any spark.
Give it a little more time, and make sure you both have your own lives.
2007-01-11 00:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie i think its time for you to get tough and i know thats not easy. You sound like a lovey person with a kind heart. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. If you can't do it face to face then write him a letter. Its not fair on him or you to continue this way. Best of Luck :)
2007-01-11 00:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by angelface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is the blink of an eye. Tell him you need some space and time to figure things out. Tell him you think you are moving too fast. Tell him you have an STD.
Tell him anything, just get him out of there.
2007-01-11 00:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is definitely not long enough to be living together, so kindly tell him to leave... If he is right for you, he will understand and oblige. Give it time about your feelings, you may be in a slump that is effecting your opinion of your relationship... Hope this helped... If not, sorry.
2007-01-11 00:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Scrubs Gamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him. Don't stay in a relationship if there isn't any spark. Life's too short
2007-01-11 00:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by cora m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋