I've have found my friend to be ignoring me because of my religious choice, he is a christian and i am a pagan because it feels right to me, but i find that he talks to me a lot less now because he goes to christian church and everytime he sees me he either ignores me or turns around and walks off, i feel that he is laughing at me behind my back with his christian friends, its very annoying and upsetting, so what do you think i should do about this??
2007-01-11 00:39:18 · 21 answers · asked by PaganByNature 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sister steph
I was agnostic before.
2007-01-11 01:03:03 · update #1
Discard him. If he wants to shun because you don't believe in his invisible sky-daddy, and he's going to get a sense of self-superiority over you (he's suddenly too good for you because he has Jesus and you don't... one of the despicable things Christianity does to people), then he isn't worth your worry and effort. You can find new friends who will RESPECT YOU for who you are and what you believe in.
2007-01-11 00:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
He's not laughing behind your back. Sounds to me like your news came as a shock and he doesn't know how to react. I'm guessing you weren't always pagan, right. Were you Christian before? Did you go to church with him before? He might feel slightly betrayed and doesn't know how to talk to you anymore.
Try sitting him down and asking him what's wrong. Let him know that you feel the strain on your friendship. Tell you are still the same person you always were and that you want to remain friends. Don't get upset if he pulls away, not everyone is going to be your friend and don't push him. It's actually hard for some people when their friends change. Were the kind of person who spoke of being pagan long before you changed religions? Or did you keep your opinion to yourself and then tell him one day after meeting other pagans behind his back? I've had friends who did that, who kept their religious choices secret and then spring it on me after they change. It might hurt him that you didn't open up and talk to him. That you didn't trust him enough to tell him what you were feeling.
AGain, talk to him.
2007-01-11 08:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by sister steph 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's probably at a loss, not sure what to make of your choice. I suggest telling him how you feel. If you still want him as a friend, let him know this. Ask him if the two of you can remain friends dispite your differences.
His reaction is based on fear. He's afraid for you, or maybe he feels he failed you somehow. Ask, talk it out, reconnect, or learn if friendship is still a possibility. Knowing certainly beats where the two of you are right now. If he can't, then make new friends.
2007-01-11 08:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I doubt he is laughing at you behind your back. Perhaps he is ignoring you for fear of clashing because of the difference between your beliefs. Why not explain to him why you believe the way you do and ask him to explain why he believes the way he does. There is no reason you cannot be friendly with each other. As a Christian we should love everyone, and sometimes it can be difficult for different personalities not to get into heated discussions with those we love. He probably is afraid of getting into a debate and pushing you away.
2007-01-11 08:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Has he recently started attending church? He may well be insecure in his own beliefs at this point--not so much that you would influence him, but that he fears you might, or even that being around you may give others the wrong impression. If that's the case, worry not and give him time.
2007-01-11 09:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by angk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My suggest is to ask yourself reflecting on his actions and his friends actions-
Why choose to be upset and annoyed! Let go of the relationship all together for even at this point it is not a relationship that appears to be what you desire it to be!
Let it go and I bet you may find that another relationship will soon come to make its presence known.
2007-01-11 08:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think a real friend would act such way? Try consulting him and try to be more friendly. Religion is religion and nothing to do with friendship. I hope he's understanding.
2007-01-11 08:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by terrorblade 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to be secure with who you are, and stand up for yourself.
If you worry about what other people might think of you, then you're not really going to live your life, you're going to live the life THEY want you to live.
just be yourself, and be strong with who you are.
then, it won't matter what anybody thinks of you.
2007-01-11 09:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by apple 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Suffer not the chides and remarks of the followers of the one god. As he teaches selfishness so they will be, as he teaches jealousy, so they will be. The One god will teach his own to be haters and hateful, so it will be. Though you might yet love a follower of the one god and give to them faith and trust, they will banish you from them. For to them you seem as blasphemer and wicked witch and beast.
Cast not your eyes to them, Cast not your faith to them, Suffer them not. For as you did love them they will feel too the loss of you.
They can but love you from afar.
You can but love them from afar.
And to you sweet child of earth I offer only love and gentle blessing. Love them and bless them, the children of the One god will need from you this love in the end of days.
En Tis Blethec.
Blessed be.
2007-01-11 09:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by tian_mon 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a new friend. This friend of yours is not a friend to you and even if he is a Christian his attitute is excluding and unkind so I don't think he understands the term christian behavior.
2007-01-11 08:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋