I have a serious problem.. i have a boyfriend, and he is really great, i like him. But i have also one friend, and few days ago i realized, that he is not only my friend.. In fact.. i dont know if the second boy likes me, but i know that i do.. I dont know what to do now, because i know that my boyfriend loves me and i dont want to hurt him.. i did it once before, and dont want to do it anymore! I dont know what is worse.. I couldnt have anytihing with the second boy during the time i am with my boyfriend, i mean nothing physicall.. But it is all in my head.. I think that i should break up with my boyfriend.. it is not fair.. But i love him too.. I know, it sounds very strange... but i wrote exactlly the thoughts that are running im my head all the day.. Plaaeese help me..
2007-01-11 00:33:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with what you think is right, well obviously you are a little confused so i will help you Just explain to your boyfriend that you still want to be friend and that you enjoy spending time with him but if you dont do this you wont be happy tell him that there is someone else you like someone else that your heart has flown away to,
that is what i had to do in a similiar situation and it worked out gfreat! I see my ex alot and we spend time together and have fun and i am also really happy with my boyfriend!
Hope it works out girl!
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2007-01-11 00:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by undecided 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a very common problem. Many of like to love and be loved by more than one. There are also a lot of discussions ongoing if "monogamy" is really natural. Just one partner for the rest of your life. Try to find out if it is ok for your friend if you meet the other, too ... it is hard to find out, but a friend of mine managed to life together with two women and they were really happy ... Anyway this is not the normal case. In reality most of the times you have to take a decision ...
2007-01-11 08:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jogi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is even possible to love 5 people at the same time! just realize that this does not have to change the love for your boyfriend. one does not exclude the other. Count what you have with your boyfriend, and decide if you want to build up to that, or throw it away. You'd have to start all over again with that other guy, so think twice... Remember: Just don't feel guilty or alarmed by loving other people next to your partner. it is a good thing to love.
Dr. Aram
2007-01-11 08:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Aram, from Holland with love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't possibly be in love with 2 guys at the same time - you've got only 1 heart! Give it a serious thought & decide which one of them you seriously want to be with, & let go of the other.
Remember the golden rule: "Do unto others as you wish them do unto you". Would you be happy if a guy does that to you?
2007-01-11 08:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by ebony 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whatever you do don't do the behind the back thing. Just go with your heart. If your feelings are stronger for someone else then you are not in love with your current boyfriend. Maybe you just need sometime to yourself without someone so you can think about things.
2007-01-11 08:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by amber_myers16 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off you can love two people and you should really think your decision through because you said you don't want to hurt him, but you still are going to hurt him by breaking up with him and besides you don't want to give up something good and then want him back.
2007-01-11 08:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to check yourself. If you really love your current boyfriend, then you have no need for some one else. If your current boyfriend supplies you with your needs and desires, and you are happy with him, then stay with him and don't look for something else. Remember the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2007-01-11 08:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Archie B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your boyfriend you don't want to be his exclusively, that you would like to see other guys, I suggest you tell boy #2 the same thing. That's fair for everyone.
2007-01-11 08:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes!! been there done that but you just might have to ask yourself who you love more, and put the other one to the side, because falling in love with two guys can cause drama
2007-01-11 08:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Justine P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart not your mind. You may potentially make a big mistake! Do whats best for you and who will be there in the long haul!
2007-01-11 08:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kat A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋