my boyfriend is 24 and am 20 yrs,everytime we get in an argument he says.its my age that makes us argue alot,he says that am still immature.do u think because am younger than him he should blame me for our arguments?
2007-01-11 00:15:35 · 26 answers · asked by hott g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he is probably more mature than you. I don't care what people say, the difference is only about two years and it depends on the individuals involved. Now . . . he isn't right to blame you for being immature just because of your age. You might not be immature at all. It really depends. Have a nice day!
2007-01-11 00:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,sometimes the older is uncertain maturer than the younger,it's based on each experiences.Maybe in some aspects,you are maturer than him.
whatever the age,we always need to learn,it won't complete whole life .By learning from the interaction with people,we will gain more than only by self.By communicating we could learn and the same time we will understand more about each other.
You don't need feel blameful coz your age,maybe you are not always wrong,maybe both.But the most important thing is : Communication.
Talking to him about your feelings AFTER each moods come down,to discuss each feelings and thinkings,don't evade the problems or any bad feeling ever had.By soft communication,not be swayed by one's feelings and act rashly.
You could talk to him about your thinkings,and encourage him to express his too.Maybe coz the age he just hard to take off his pride,maybe it's just a part of his personality.
Going to communicate with him,not to attack his ideas,you need to respect each other and remind him this anytime.
By soft and honest ways to tell him about yourself.Anytime in the process of communication,remember one thing:You're working for the relationship to become better and to remind him this,not to attack enemy.Just like the way to the person of your family,communicating is the most important.
GOOD LUCK to YOU !! ^ v ^
2007-01-11 08:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no definetly not I am 39 and my boyfriend is 46...older doesnt mean more mature. He is using your age as a way to place the blame on you and end the arguement. Thats immature for 24 years old...
2007-01-11 08:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope he is begging the issue, in other words instead of thinking of a good point to argue, he comes up with this lame argument to distract from the real issue. It's like when republicans can't think of a good argument for something so they say unpatriotic.
2007-01-11 08:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all there is only a 4 year age difference so I don't think it's about you being immature. Maybe you should talk to him because there might be something else but the age thing is all he can resort to.
2007-01-11 08:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by DLG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all age does not have to with maturity, afterall women mature romatically than men just try to iron out your differences together not blaming one another, look for loopholes and make amends is never a barrier to immaturity. afterall 29 years old lady can be more immature to a 20 year old girl.
2007-01-11 08:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some 20 year olds are mature, others are immature. Some people are still immature when they are 30. It's not really to do with age as such. Maybe you are one of the immature ones?
2007-01-11 08:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The number of your age doesn't mean much. when I was 20 I dated a man who was 52. His immaturity and my maturity evened out around 30-35years old. We got along wonderfully and could appreciate our differences. Perhaps your boyfriend is the one who is uncomfortable with the age gap between you two. Often men have a very difficult time verbalizing their "issues" so instead they grab the easiest excuse. (hence the "you're too young...") Calmly approach the idea of his concern with him and see if he might be honest enough with you and himself to open up.
2007-01-11 08:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Halo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually you both are still too young.
When you are truly in love,
"Who's right and who's wrong" is trivial stuff.
Blamestorming -- trying to pinpoint blame is a waste of time and energy in a "loving" relationship.
Love should be about solving problems and growing together -- not about proving who is right and wrong.
Finally, what good is being right if you have to celebrate the victory by yourself?
2007-01-11 08:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRLS MATURE FASTER THAN BOY'S....that is a proven fact..
if he blames you for all the arguments then he is just using your age to cover up the fact that just maybe he is the cause of all the fights...
Don't mind him and you defiantly don't take all the slam for his faults..
Is your relationship working??or are the fights happening because one or neither of you don't want to be in this committed relationship???
2007-01-11 08:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by emma_18d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋