Just friends....I like this girl alot, and I really need help, what to do? I wanna leave just friends category

Question

Long story short, I liked this girl, she got drunk one nite, we made out for a few hours, she told me to forget it, and then we just started chillin everyday. Over the next 2 months we made out 5 more times for HOURS BOTH COMPLETELY SOBER. The next day she would say "we shouldnt be doing this, im not interested in you". I poured out my feelins, she said im too emotional. Eventually everything went bad, she then started telling me how she likes my friend, and then today was the worst, when she told me the guy she likes soo much right now, a guy who liked her back in JHS and now in college she likes him and used to stalk him. She said things I really did not want to hear, like what she would do for him, chill nxt week. We havent seen eachother since school ended Dec 22. We are partyin this Thurs. I wanna be ready to amaze her, what do I do? She stopped IMin me completely, and her family thinks im the guy who tried to rape her(long story/hacker), so they told her to stop talkin to me, plz

OK, She is a virgin, and I was the third guy she ever made out with in her life. I am 20 and she is 18. The reason I am soo attached to her is because I lost the love of my life 3 years ago due to my stupidity, and I seriously hadnt kissed/gone out with a girl in 3 years. When I kissed her, I kinda got sprung. One of my friends decided to take this to her fam and tell her in a email how much im feelin her, this pissed her off, not to mention some guy tried to threaten rape on her a week later, and her fam thought it was me. I was the most important person to her, her freshman term at college, and now she acts like im nothing. I hadnt IMed her in 3 weeks, and she didnt bother IMin me, I had to IM her. She actually said she is not gonna talk to me as much because of her fam. Eventually she said, had I not been the heavy smoker I am, there *might* have been a chance, but now there is no chance in hell, "from u beggin me(I didnt beg for it), to the letter, to the hacker, it aint happenin.

What im sayin is... Things just started getting worse. Everytime I would say, "your so beautiful" she would at first be like, I know u dont mean it, im ugly". After a while, she would just say, lets not talk about it. Without me, she would not have met nebody her first term at college. I was always there for her. She stopped seein/talkin to me finals week(guess how I did on my final b/c of this, terrible). Im gonna see her tonite, I just want to amaze her, how do I act? She also changed her phone number because of the hacker, and didnt tell me it. When she was talking about how if she likes a guy she will talk to him for hrs on the phone, I brought up her # being changed. She just said, OK g2g, kbye, and signed off. I made a mistake of never callin her, just TXTing her, but I had lost my voice for 2 months, so no point in callin. I dont know why, I still see hope, because I just dont want anybody else. It took me 3 yrs to b interested in sum1 afta my ex, so she is def. special.

The reason I see hope is because, she is known for saying, ITLL NEVER HAPPEN. Yet it happens. After the 2nd time making out, she would always say that "forget about it, we will never ever, no chance in hell, never say never in a billion years make out again" Boom, 2 weeks later she made moves on me again. She said it again, boom, next week im kissin her again. Boom, she said it again, and i convinced her to do it AGAIN, and then boom, one more time, i convinced her and she gave in. She was a little more firm on it the last time "TAKE THAT NOTION OUT OF YOUR HEAD, I JUST ADMIT MY CRUSH TO YOU, WE ARE NOT GONNA MAKE OUT AGAIN".

she also doesnt like guys who are soft and lovey, like the poetic kinda guy, thing is, i became something I wasnt, im not the type of guy that acts all nice, and says nice things... I said it for her, and that was my destruction.

ONE LAST THING. At first when she would say that she doesnt wanna be in a relationship with me, she would be like, "but I still wanna be your good friend". Now she doesnt even consider me a friend like that. She would always be like, "we cant have a relationship, but we can be good friends atleast". Also her roommate told me that she got very mad one night(3 days after the first kiss) when her roommate made me leave their room. She was like "I wanted to make out with him soo badly, why did u make him leave" When her RM asked "will u get with him?", she said "i dont know, but ill make out with him though". MAN, I FEEL SOO USED, I WOULD DRIVE HER 35 MILES OUT MY WAY to make her feel happy and get her home safe...
How is she gonna call MY FRIENDS first to chill before she calls, scratch that, doesnt even invite me. How is she gonna act like we never had nethin. We were making out da last time, and her RM was kicking my door, and then her RM made me open the door, and her RM brainwash her.

Answer 1

Let her alone.. Stay friends

Answer 2

Be glad, you don't need this. You deserve better than that. She isn't some one you want to be friends with. Stay out of her life, and tell her to do the same to you. If things don't work out with this other person, she will probably try running back to you, until she found some one else. You are only asking for hurt if you even listen to her. She made the choice, not you. She can live with the choices she makes. Go on with your life. You sound like a very caring person. Don't let her use you

Answer 3

aight dude Im sorry she isnt really interested in you. You are a fair weather friend. let it go and move on. She is prolly lyin to you too. So my advice move on. I know its hard been there done that. There are trillions of girls out there. shes not the one Oh the just friends never works that means a girls is sayin not interested and if you are the just friends that is a crock of ****.

Answer 4

Obviously you have an obsession with this girl. Listen, when a girl tells you NO it means NO. If you want to impress her act maturely, don't push her to accept you, don't be too emotional ( this scares girls), don't talk too much ( like in you letter), and be ready to take a No for an answer. good luck!

Answer 5

ok chum the reason they say chum classification is by using the fact they dont have severe activity in you to call you boyfriend textile there are issues you're saying and do this turn her off like occasion consult from plenty communicate approximately adverse issues call normally the biggest to woman is endurance purely take issues slowly keep it mild keep it humorous no negavtive no positioned downs purely think of till now you're saying something is this gonna make her like me greater?

Answer 6

Ok, how can someone that was raped and made out with YOU be a virgin? Boy you need a life. Stop pestering us with your stupid questions.

Answer 7

WOW....long story short...sounds like a lot of drama, not worth chasing after someone that is not into you. Move on.

Answer 8

Stay friends if she likes u then she'll say i like u or something like that