me and my bf split up for good last week, i always thought we were just gona have a bit of time apart n then get back. i was really missing him so last night i drove to his house to see him and he let me in and said we defo cant b together no more. but he grabbed my hand and took me upstairs. i was cryin so much cos i cant imagine my life without him. but i was tryin to talk to him as i didnt want to go round for sex, but he kept telling me to stop talkin and had sex with me, i was cryin as this was happenin cos all i cud think was this is gona b some other girl in his bed in a few weeks. he didnt use anything but didnt *** up me but he knows im not on any contraception as i only had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. after we had sex i went to the toilet, then went downstairs and he had my shoes, coat and bag waiting, he said 'my mates gona b home in 10 mins so u better go' i was so so so hurt, i felt so used. but this has been building up for ages, he wasnt there for me wen i was pregnant. but i love him so much i didnt wana get over him. but all i can think of is him with sum1 else, sleepin about, havin another gf, doin everything he did with me with sum1 else. i want to get it out my head but it makes me feel sick knowin he will b sleeping with other people. he moved into his new house with his mate 3 weeks ago, he knows how much i hate livin at home and he didnt even offer, after bein together 2 yrs. we have been through so much together. so i know he has his own place with his mate and i know what he will be doing and its killing me, i cant eat or anything, please help!
2007-01-11 00:01:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You MUST pull yourself together & move on with your life. From what you've written, this guy doesn't really love you.
How are you even sure he doesn't have someone else already? He had sex with you inspite of the fact that you were upset & pushes you out like a piece of thrash. Wake up!
2007-01-11 00:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by ebony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Your boyfriend sees you as his sexual pin-cushion. So don't assume that his relationship with you is centered around love. He sees you as an extremely convenient and gullible resource. And now, he is getting ready to dispose of that resource.
2. If you know your boyfriend is trifling to begin with, you need to tell your heart to shut the heck up and listen to your head. Let your boyfriend MISTREAT someone else because you truly deserve better. Start smiling when you think that such a poor excuse for a gentleman will no longer be a part of your life.
3. If your boyfriend doesn't wanna hold a conversation with you or support you during your pregnancy but finds enough time to "hit the skins", you should obviously see where his priorities are.
4. Occupy your time -- he is NOT your world and believe me, you existed way before you ever met him. Stop calling him, talking to him, and find new friends or talk to your old ones. This is how you transition out of this bad relationship!
5. He is obviously moving on -- the worst thing you can do is live in the past and act like you are some incomplete person. God made you whole from the very beginning.
6. Eat some food because despite what you are saying, your boyfriend isn't ALL THAT. He isn't worth your life or your health because he doesn't even treat you like the queen you are. Get some Godiva chocolate and eat it until your forehead caves in.
7. And finally, avoid revenge because it only validates that you are obsessed about him and it is a poor use of your precious time.
2007-01-11 00:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, he's wasn't there for you when you were pregnant. AFTER you broke up he used you WHILE YOU WERE CRYING then threw you out like trash. I don't see what there is to love about a guy like that. I can't imagine why you would care whether he lived or died. If a jerk ever did anything like that to me I wouldn't take him back even if he begged.
You sound very young. Is your first boyfriend? You need to trust me - there are better guys out there. If you're so upset about losing this creep you should talk to someone you respect like a minister or a teacher. They can help you to put this in perspective.
2 things to remember -
1] If a guy isn't there for you in a relationship you don't actually HAVE a relationship.
2] If you use condoms you won't have to worry about pregnancies, miscarriages or STDs. Use them every time.
2007-01-11 00:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy was just using you for sex, be glad you are away from him. It never would of worked, and believe me he did you a favor. How long do you think he is going to keep the next one, just because he moved in with some one else. He did you this way, he will probably do her the same. You said it right there, they moved in togeather. He just wants to use some one else or he would of married her, and just not lived togeather. Move on with your life, there are a lot better out there. Don't settle for less than you want. Believe me it will take awhile, but move on with your life. This guy wasn't worth you in the first place, don't ruin your life by not eating, that is only hurting you, not him
2007-01-11 00:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing for you to do is stay away from him.Cease all contact He has disrespected you & used you for sex.
I know it hurts but you will just get more hurt & upset if you see him.He doesn't care about you by the things you have said.
Talk to someone, a friend, your Mum if you're comfortable with that. What your ex does now is beyond your control & you don't need to be worrying about him.
Take care of yourself & you will see in time that he was not right for you & there will be others in your life. Be nice to yourself & I promise you will get over this.
xxx
2007-01-11 00:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that you are having such a bad time at least you have some one.
I have no one to have sex with just two internet friends that I talk with every once and awhile.
If all he wants is sex and you want a relationship find someone new.
I am availible but more than likely just a bit old and live to far away.
Louisiana. Oh well Everything will be okay dear don't give up.
2007-01-11 00:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you have answered all your questions.. if you ask me hes only looking for a shag patner, forgive me if i may sound rude but the truth hurts.I suggest the sooner you let go of the past the sooner you will find your future there is someone out there who loves you every much and is waiting to happen so just have a good cry, get up, forgive and forget and move on. please.No one is worth your tears and your love, rememember get up, forgive and forget and MOVE ON. Hug!
2007-01-11 00:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you should somebody else you should love yourself first...Don't let him do this on you,there's a lot of man still out there and just believe that if someone has been gone on you someone much better will come along for you. Let him go i know its really hard but you have to do it or you will be like this forever.Good luck and Godbless!!!
2007-01-11 00:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look obviously is this guy is a perfect example of a jerk. if i were u, i wud be lookin the yellow pages for contract killers.. if they hav that provision.. look at the brighter side.. there are gud guys out there too.. u dont hav to jump into a relationship wid guys.. test the waters and then jump.. and btw i am single and i dont care wat hppnd in ur past life.. i care wats gonna happen and i am sure it wil be good.. smile even if u hav no reason to.. thats the only way to live..
2007-01-11 00:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Abhi M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it up...if you want a sex partner, sounds like he is in for that game, but not a relationship. Move on and don't go around him...some day the "right" guy will come along...but not if you are hung up on someone who is obviously not hung up on you
2007-01-11 00:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋