I havent acheived anything in Life?

Question

I am 23 years old and I dont have a single achievment because I cant seem to be interested in one thing for a long time. From the age of 15 I have changed my field of study more than 10 times!..Currently Im studying for a Diploma and the exam is so close - and I want to switch to a different field!...I keep thinking - maybe I'll be better in that field because of my personality etc..and although I started my current course with the greatest excitement, I cant even open a book now I get so bored. When I started this course I studied all the time and I was really excited about the subject. How do i break this habit?...I feel that Im going into deep depression because of this. Im not a crazy person! - other than this I have a very normal married healthy life!. Is there a term for this kind of illness? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Answer 1

I was kind of like that too. I've had mental issues for a long time. I started seeing a therapist and worked on my relationship with God. I know there are many things that you've accomplished. Ask people in your life what you've accomplished or look at old photographs for memories. People get depressed, but if you feel you're too bad or it's lasted longer than 2 weeks, get help. You are too hard on yourself. Try to find support and go to a nice Christian church where you feel comfortable. Ask God for help. I have two disorders that caused me to act like that about school and with my whole life. I have borderline personality disorder and I'm bipolar. I DON'T WANT TO SCARE YOU. If you had one of those, you would have a lot more symptoms. I'M NOT SAYING YOU HAVE ONE OF THEM. It is just something to think about or research. Just seek God though. He helped me.

Answer 2

Whoa, hold on now, what do you mean you haven't achieved anything in life? Doesn't sound like it. You probably are just exaggerating what you think others have achieved by the time they are 23. Achievement isn't all about careers, though our society tends to gear us towards thinking that; it can also mean your development as a person, your relationships with family and friends.
You're not a crazy person; finding what you want to do with your life can take a while. In fact, many people never find that one thing that they accept doing for the rest of their working lives; they try lots of different things. And there ain't nothing wrong with that.

I'm 23, and I do the same thing you do: I get into something all excited, and then after a year or two, I have absorbed so much, and my interest starts to wane. I'm not mentally unbalanced, I simply get obsessed with subjects, conquer the steepest part of the learning curve, and then get bored. But I think to myself: I have learned a lot, and now I can start fresh doing something new.

I was worried about having supposed to have had a 'career' by now too, and was very hard on myself. Consequently, I developed an anxiety disorder, which I am now dealing with. I sought psychological counselling, and have come to the following conclusion:
your work has little to do with your value as a human;
I have to take a more balanced approach to learning, rather than getting into a single subject obsessively, exhausting myself, and then getting bored with it.

If you think it's a major problem you can seek counselling (either psychological or career, depending on what kind of help you are looking for).

Answer 3

What's it called? Fear of succeeding?

There is nothing wrong with having many interests. You sound like a very creative and intelligent person, so, your mind goes to new things. But, part of using our creativity well is to make a committment to finish what we undertake to do. When we finish our committments, it brings a feeling of achievement.

If you want to break the "I'm no good because I don;t want to finish this, then FINISH the committment. See it through. When you have the last test, do your best. Get the diploma. THEN you can give yourself permission to attack your newest interest.

Without committment, you;ll keep repeating what you've been doing.

Lifes

Answer 4

Your only 23... You have plenty of time to make something of yourself.. You might want to see a dr about possible adult ADD...

Your 23 and married? Kids I am sure too? You better buckle down and get a good job, nobody wants to be married to a loser.. sorry, not meant to be mean, But seen it happen to many times guys going from one job to the next..

Answer 5

Chief! Listen to ME! Been there. Was that! It's all about your own Self-Respect. You gotta beleive in yourself. Before you do anything for your self. You're in School. make it help you get the Life that you want. You've got the knowledge. Don't let your Family down. They believe in you. And take this one "Notion" as you want "God's Gift to you, is Life. Your Gift to HIM? Is what you make of it". It's helped me to stay in focus. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You are pretty young. I wouldn't worry about it.

the fact that you are married pretty young is probably adding to the stress of you feeling like you should be doing something that make you feel sucessful.

As you get older you will settle down and realize what you are supposed to be doing.

Answer 7

try things that u don't normally do and mayb widen your social circle by knowing more people.. and believe in yourself.. you are what you think you are..

www.healthy-detox.net

Answer 8

If you email me with your date of birth and also a email address I will do you a numerology reading to see if it will give you some insight to your life : )

Love & Blessings
Milly

Answer 9

Your young and you still have lots of time

Answer 10

start doing something you dint like doing. and you will