I'm almost 19 & my bf is 19... we've been dating for almost one year, and I'm sure that he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not in a rush or anything... taking time is good, but i hear from alot of people that I'm too young to make a decision like that already... I almost can't handle thinking about my future w/o him in it, I'm deeply in love with him... Do you think I'm too young?
2007-01-10 23:37:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is still alot ahead of you to experience and learn. People,emotions,ideals and life changes.You are at your peak in your late 20's and 1 year isn't that long to make such a decision.Age is really just a number but wouldn't you want your relationship to last a little longer and test the waters out first?
2007-01-10 23:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19. That was just over 30 yrs ago now but we have certainly had our real bad patches. We were both very mature though. I'm not saying at all that you are not mature but as you two have only been dating a short time l would advise you to wait a little longer before you go jumping into marriage. Your feelings may change in a year or so and you don't want to end up in the divorce courts. If you both love each other enough for marriage those feelings should not change if you wait a little. Best of luck to you in the future.
2007-01-10 23:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and I think that if you are really ready to make a decision like that, you will be ready. People are stupid and only think of the stereotypical 18 and 19 year olds.
Not that I am saying you should get married in the next year or two, but don't base your relationship on what other people think--it will only end badly.
Overall, yes you are two young to get married, especially if you are asking a bunch of strangers if you should spend the rest of your life with him, and no you are not too young to make that decision.
2007-01-10 23:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but be responsible and be up on your birth control and protection as a kiss may lead to more than a kiss over the one year and you do not want to be parents too soon. You need time together and you need to tell him he is the one for you and see if this is going to make your relationship deeper or tear things appart. Some things out in the open is good if you do not want to pay the price of looking around or loosing him SEE IF HE FEELS the same way. You want a Future with him in it and if he does not see you in the future then accept as much as he will give you if you want your heart broken...YOU are in no obligation with this person if you keep your business mind about you and do not want to go to the next level . Modesty is to wait for the man to make the first move or to wait for your husband...yet life is too short and things changed and that is wait or not to wait.
I felt this way about my man to wait or not to wait and now it is too late IF YOU FEEL You have found the one Let him know and don't let things wait. Time flys health fades and goes and you are young but accidents happen and the I wish I would have could have should have LIFE pass you by...
2007-01-10 23:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be mature for your age but that doesn't mean you can make the right decision. Marriage is a serious matter, and you should think about your own person(finding your own identity) before commiting to another person. I believe you are in love with this person but you must wait to see if you really love him, say in 5 more years.
2007-01-10 23:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by indie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
timming of marriage also involve other factors ur age may be almost appropriate but are u two in a position to handle independent family life self supporting do you two are finished with your education and are fit in carreeer if answer to such querries is yes go ahead
2007-01-10 23:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life experience is the most valueable thing we can have. Give it some more time before you make such a decision.
2007-01-10 23:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People use to get married younger than that so I don't understand why they get all funny about it. Still today a lot of people marry their high school sweetheart. You know what is right for you. Just keep dating him and see what happens.
2007-01-10 23:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sweetie ur not too young,but people tell it to you coz they want you to keep ur options open for other men you might meet in the course of your life,like maybe at uni or at work,sometimes we close ourselves to prospective mates if we commit our selves too early,having told you their side, i personally believe in love,and age in no bar,if he makes you happy and you feel dat ur at ur maximum potential with ur bf,then pls hold on to him forever!
2007-01-10 23:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by lilbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but you should both plan about your future first,study hard dedicate your studies to each other,both of you should start setting goals for a brighter future and inspire each other and take it easy
2007-01-10 23:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋