what do u lot think of parents smacking children for bad behaviour?

Answer 1

I think parents who smack/ spank/ beat,etc. are ignorant people with low communication skills and low IQ.That's why they smack/spankThey just aren't capable of seeing the resons for a child's misbehaving and decide that the spanking would solve the problem.

Answer 2

I was smacked as a child and it definatly reinforced dicipline. I have a 4 year old and have always adopted the naughty corner technique. I would always explain to my child why she was in the naughty corner and reason with her to allow her to realise that what she did was wrong. Now in saying this, i'm no push over. My daughter has had a sore butt when she has blatently disrespected me or completely pushed the boundaries. She is a smart little thing (definately too smart for her age!) and knows how far to push her parents. She know that i mean business if i smack her, and she accepts it. When being diciplined, my daughter only cries or protests when she believes she is right (I give her the chance to speak) but never cries when being smacked because she knows i only do that when she has been out of order.
The only thing I would say is that parents should never smack their child if they are angry because you are likely to go overboard. And smacking should always be followed up with a explanation so that the child knows why she is being smacked. Smacking without an explanation reinforces nothing because the child is likely to repeat their mistakes.
I definatly agree with talking to your child as a first means of dicipline but sometimes you have to check your child and let them know that 2 captains cannot run a ship. you are the parent and they are the children. Children have to know the boundaries and need to be checked when they go over it. Even now, if i stepped over the boundary with my mum, i'm sure she'd give me a swift whack.
Parents who smack their children (not beat- there is a diference) are doing a service to themselves, their children and society.

Somebody mentioned Nigerian families 'laying out' their children. In response, how many Nigerian children do you find being disrespectful to their parents or their elders in the community? Answer: None.

Answer 3

I have only had to smack my boys on a couple of occasions and it is always as a last resort. I do agree with Bob in that violence teaches violence. I have a no shout policy in the house and it works. I try to talk to the boys and explain why their behaviour is bad - sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt.

I think to ban smacking will be to take parenting away from parents but do think that too many parents use physical punishment too freely.

Apart from anything else when I have smacked my boys I feel guilty about it far longer than they remember it!!!

Answer 4

I would sooner teach my children using words and other forms of discipline than pain and violent behavior. Our job is to teach our children right from wrong and how to have self control. I don't believe that a smack teaches much except that hitting is a form of control used to get people to do what you want. I have been smacked, and I turned out okay, but I would have turned out okay if I hadn't been smacked too!

I have never had to smack either of my children to get my point across. I get compliments everywhere I go about how well behaved they are. I have always taken the time to get on their level and talk to them about what they are doing wrong and following through with consequences (time out, taking toys away). I don't believe kids all kids who aren't spanked are unruly. Some have parents who take the time to teach them, and some parents let their kids walk all over them...there is a big difference between these two "non-spanking" parents.

Answer 5

Unacceptable... it shows a lack of good communication. It's lazy parenting!

Never smacked my child and I don't have any discipline problem. Children understand when you speak to them from a very young age.

Smacking is violence for parents who do not know better....though there is no excuse these days with all the knowledge and information available to us!

I think it's incredible to see that so many people have such retarded views on bringing up children! If you hit an adult you get arrested for assault ...but it's ok to hit the ones you love? What do they think children learn from smacking?

And people who say it didn't do them any harm...yes it did...you think it's ok to hit a child....

And Helking: something went wrong with your IQ test.....they gave you someone else's results. How can you support such a barbaric act.

I never had to smack my child and she is a funny, considerate, polite and clever teenager.

Answer 6

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one that thinks this way. i think smacking is OK as long as it is below the waist (legs or bum) as long as it is done not to hurt the child or leave a mark but for discipline purposes. it did me no harm and i think in a lot of ways it made me a better person. if smacking was so harmful why is it that kids these days are more out of control than kids years ago? look at the facts. beating your kids is wrong though(there is a difference with beating your kids than just mere smacking) some parents would rather scream and say nasty things to their kids but i think that's more harmful especially emotionally. i don't remember a lot of the smacks i use to get but i certainly do remember nasty things that was said to me(not my parents but other adults) and this affected my self esteem as a child and adolescent. no smacking did not affect me at all.

Answer 7

I think that its uptp the individual personally. I mean I was smacked and also grounded when older so know different forms of punishment, but dont think that it does any damage to the child unless the punishment is severe, it should only be a gentle slap on bum etc not a beating, and i think this is what people who are against it think we would like to do.

I have also seen that it doesnt work, as many nannies etc use the time out and the reward scheme and to be honesy, i think kids go for that more.

So unsure

Answer 8

Smacking our children not always means we are being a bad parents. We have to teach our children how to behave when they are young. Once they already grown up there is nothing can be done anymore.
Good parents always know how to discipline their children and they should lead by showing good examples too.

Answer 9

I was smacked occasionaly and turned out ok. I occasionally smack my children but never excessively. I try everything else first. Actually I have tried everything in the book and sometimes a smack is what is required.
The 'do gooders' need to realise that there is a huge difference between a smack on the bottom and child abuse! - and most of them don't have children. - I have four and am a lone mum.

Answer 10

To suggest that someone who taps a child on the hand or gives a tap on the bottom has a low IQ and poor communication levels is ignorant themselves, and very probably doesn't have children. I have three and rarely have to smack/spank them, but if a child continues to test you after you've reasoned with them (and by golly most children at some point will push as hard as think they can get away with) then an occasional tap will do them no harm. . Hitting them hard enough to really hurt is another matter entirely. BTW my IQ is 147.

Answer 11

I agree with the first answer.. Parents are way to big of push overs with their children and most provide NO discipline what so ever.. Which goes to a bigger picture.. just look at the teens involved in crimes these days.

I believe that it is your decision as the parent to smack or not. I haven't done it to my children but they know that I have threatened and it would be used if necessary. But they have been taught enough to change their behavior before it gets to that point.

*Side note: this is presuming that the parent is mature enough to even have children and doesn't take it to the extreme and abuse the child- there is a big difference in smacking/spanking and beating.