OK this has been on my mind for quite a while, I think my niece is being mollested and am not sure what to do. My mother and I tried to talk to my sister about it and all she said is yes her behaviour is strange but never actually did anything. You see I have noticed that she is always touching herself, and at first I thought it was harmless exploration of ones own body as children often do, but this is not harmless touching, she knows what she is doing and she does it a lot, when she is on the toilet, in the bath, watching TV, her hands are always down there. I feel as a close relative I have to do something, but what? The worst part of it is I caught her inappropriately touching my daughter which was extremely alarming, I mean I know they are ages 5 and 4, but this girl has a very unhealthy facination with touching, I have explained to my own daughter that it is not right for her cousin to do that to her and she almost understands me, so what do I do for my niece?
2007-01-10 23:32:25 · 5 answers · asked by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am wondering if your neice has routine physical exams. I was thinking that perhaps she was touching herself a lot due to an infection or something but since you say she "knows what she is doing" I assume you mean she is masterbating. It is normal for a child of her age to "explore her body." However, if she knows how to masterbate, she has either had it done to her or she has seen it somewhere. Either way, this is inappropriate. I would approach your sister again. Tell her that you are very concerned and her touching your daughter brings you into the problem. If she loves her daughter, she will have her checked out by a doctor. Children are molested every day and not only by family members. Please make your sister hear you. A doctor should be able to help you and your sister decide what to do next. Good luck and God Bless!!!!!
2007-01-11 04:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by rrcoyote 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister again. Explain to her that you are uncomfortable about her child touching herself so much and don't like her playing those kind of games with your child and ask her how she would like to handle it. Perhaps if you take the emphasis off her child and explain how it affects you and your child she'll be able to see it as a different kind of problem and find some way to deal with it.
However, it may go together with your other question about her being a brat. It could be that her bad behaviour is linked to some sort of abuse. The child is not capable of understanding what is going on or talking about it but will have a lot of confused and angry emotions about it.
2007-01-11 10:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definition: The phallic stage is the third stage of Freud’s stages of psychosexual development, lasting from age three years to six years. According to Freud, the genitals are the primary erogenous zone and pleasure is derived from genital stimulation. The primary conflict at this stage is a desire to possess the opposite-sex parent. Completion of this stage results in identifying with the same-sex parent.
2007-01-11 10:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by xoxpwincess.zoxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your pediatrician and explain what you've just explained here. To me it sounds like it's probably normal exploration--certainly more than most, but not a definite indicator that she is being molested. Ask your pediatrician what you should do both with your niece and how you should handle your niece's touching of your daughter.
2007-01-11 07:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Malaprop 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
please consult a sex therapist.
2007-01-11 07:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by dr_hiren80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋