i ended my 6 year relationship with my ex 6 months ago.he was violent, controlling and possessive of me. i couldnt take it anymore.
i feel like ill never find my Mrt Right to settle down with. i feel as if im too old and wasted the last 6 years of my life!!!
HELP!!xxx
2007-01-10 23:21:27 · 33 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude..... i was single for ages and im 35.... you have nothing to worry about, go out and enjoy yourself.
2007-01-10 23:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not waste anything, obviously you need that time to learn. Now that this period is over, take some time for yourself and don't rush into anything right now. Search why you attracted a violent, possessive and controlling man and kept him in your life for 6 years. Then search what kind of belief system and behavior you have that attracted this type of person. Learn from your experience!
You are not old at all, you have the rest of your life in front of you, you are only 25 for Christ sake. Remember, you cannot have a person in your life with traits that you don't possess. So, if you want Mr. Right, write down, which are the traits, internal and external that you would like him to have, then check which of those YOU have. If something is missing, cultivate it first. Everything will follow after that.
2007-01-10 23:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by sensimilia2000 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are no way too old!! Congratulations on ending that relationship, it took a lot of courage. It's difficult to break with someone after all that time even if they were mistreating you. Six months is not long and you will still be feeling the effects of the break up.
Right now you should get out there and do the things you want to do, begin really living again and be kind to yourself.
You haven't wasted your time, there will have been good times and you will have learnt a lot about yourself and what it is that you won't put up with in a man. You have learned how courageous and strong you are. Now this is the beginning for you and at 25 loads of people out there are still single and living it up.
Best wishes.
2007-01-10 23:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are too old. I have also been with my fiance for 6 years and if it ended I would feel the same way. I would think of this as a new beginning if I were you. You are free to find someone to make you happy. Until that happens just have fun being single for a while and have fun with your friends. Someone will come along, I wouldn't worry for another 5 years or so. And at least now you know the type of guy you don't want to be with.
2007-01-10 23:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by ginger 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good god get a grip. Of course you shouldn't be worried, you should be celebrating the fact you saw sense to get out of a bad relationship. Enjoy life! Discover the world, be nice to other people, learn something new, do some voluntary work. All too soon you will be 35 or 45 etc etc and wondering what happened to your independance! And by the way, you'll have a whole lot more success meeting a decent "mr right" if you are content with yourself as a person - if you aren't you'll end up with someone who will take advantage of this.
2007-01-10 23:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Em 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. A few years ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years when I was 25 and felt much the same. 25 is not old but at the time I felt i had wasted the time - we were planning to have a baby and the future looked good - I was blind to her real feelings.
Life does go on but dating again is difficult after a long time - not sure if this helps
2007-01-10 23:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by John F 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never too old, you did the right thing in leaving an abusive relationship. You will find the right one to treat you right. You have learned what you dont want from your six yrs with this guy. Now your better suited to find whats good for you, its a leason learned and an experience to see signs in others that you can stay away from.Good Luck
2007-01-11 00:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly? there is nothing wrong with you. You spent six years in a relationship, it may take a while for you to get back on the dating train. If you try to rush around and find someone just to fill the void of the six year relationship, you'll end up with a guy just as bad as, if not worse than your ex. Best of luck, and you'll find Mr. Right!
2007-01-10 23:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Hito 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations my dear, for getting rid of someone who was abusing you. Why should you be worried about your age and being single?
Now you are free to meet a man who really loves and respects you. He may be near you, but you haven't noticed him yet. If someone says he loves you, he doesn't have to abuse you, and much less will try to control you.
The next time, get to know the guy really well before going any further.
Best wishes.
2007-01-10 23:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen i turned 24 today chick's n i'm single. Split wit my x 4 months ago coz he said i wasn't marraige material!! I never wanted marraige anyways! You're never gonna find mr right when you're lookin its always when ya least expect it! You were right to leave your x n things can only get better from here on in!!
You shouldn't be thinking im 25 aaaghh, you should b thinkin hey i'm only 25 i've loadsa time!!
If im wrong we're all in trouble hun x x x
2007-01-10 23:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jeez you're only 25! I've just ended 16 year relationship which was a complete waste. Chill out, enjoy yourself.......have a good time. Don't be thinking you have to settle down, you're too young.
2007-01-10 23:26:57 · answer #11 · answered by Misha-non-penguin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋