My niece is almost 5 and she's quite intelligent but also does terrible things, she throws tantrums and a can scream for hours if she doesn't get her own way, and if I tell her she can't have somthing she will call me selfish. I am trying to be firm with her as I feel I am the only person in my whole family who will not give in to her demands. And if I don't everyone calls me nasty cranky aunty Rach but I feel like I am doing her a favour by teaching her that she can't always have things her way. I am sick of her telling me I am an idiot or mean or selfish and sometimes even worse when I am only tying to teach her right from wrong. She is just one nasty little kid and I can't avoid seeing her as I live with my parents so she visits often, how do I deal with her without fantasizing about ringing her little neck?
2007-01-10 23:14:28 · 11 answers · asked by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like everyone else is taking the easy way out by giving her her own way. Good for you that you're not! Go on fantasizing but, don't change a thing you're doing. If she acts like this now can you imagine what she'll be like in ten years or so. I hope her parents put a good lawyer on retainer because I think they're going to need one!! Kids that are allowed to run the household get a sense of entitlement. That almost always leads to brushes with the law. You're the only one that seems to be drawing a line for her. She needs that. You'll make a good parent. Keep up the good work.
2007-01-11 00:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got the same deal going on. My nephew is the same way. He will be 10 in a couple of weeks. He will throw a fit and start crying in a heartbeat if he doesn't get what he wants. He won't do anything that you ask him to. He even chucked the dvd remote at my head when I shut the TV off cause he wouldn't do something my mom asked him to do. I had to leave the room, cause I was so pissed off at him.
My sister (his other aunt) gets along with him the best, she says that she has always treated him more like an adult the a little kid. Maybe it will help to sit and play with your neice and leave the arguing for the parents.
2007-01-11 07:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children learn most of the things from elders. Be nice to your niece. But if you feel some thing that she wants is not good for her, don't give in what ever may be her tantrums to get it. To be strict doesn't mean you should be nasty towards her. Just ignore and get out of the scene. She being intelligent will be alright as she grows. This is a temporary phase in all children.
2007-01-11 07:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Brahmanyan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When she comes over, just go in your room and close the door. Find something to do in there so it doesn't look like you are avoiding them. If you get out your books and study, they won't tell you to quit. If she comes into your room, take her to your mom and tell your mom you are trying to study and need her to stay out of your room. Also, she is not your child to disipline or teach. Ignore her. She will grow up soon.
2007-01-11 07:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very often young children have other problems they are unable to express. She could be sick, or stressed. Unless you like with your sister or brother you do not know how her home life really is. The best thing is to have her given a full check up, mind and body.
2007-01-11 07:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by DutchApplePie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her, and then when she breaks down and says why, tell her that not everything in life can just be given to you. Start teaching the youth early so as they grow up this knowledge will be intilled inside them as they grow older
2007-01-11 07:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all, talk to the other members of your family about it, and tell them not to undermind you in from of the kid....then carry on not letting her manipulate you into getting her own way, but do make sure she needs things from you, and you make her so things or ask you a specific way for things, so she starts to realize she has to earn things......
2007-01-11 07:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by no_bsht 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shes 5......and you are?? Close to being an adult?? Not your job to teach her right from wrong.... if it makes you that nuts.... just avoid being home when she is there
2007-01-11 07:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by nokiddingitsme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go in your room and don't let her in or leave when she comes over.
2007-01-11 07:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in. Kids do only what you let them.
2007-01-11 07:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋