I want to find out how involved my children should be in my second marriage. I want them to play a big part of the wedding, but how involved should they be? I want them in the cerimony, and at the head table,, is this wrong? I also want them to drive with us from the church to the reception, is this ok as well?
2007-01-10 23:09:20 · 8 answers · asked by techno_nut_2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your children should be included in all aspects of your wedding. You are not only changing your life, but theirs as well.
I am getting married for the first (and only) time pretty soon here. I have 3 kids (only 1 in common with my fiance) and he has 2 others of his own. My older daughter who is 14 is my Jr. Bridesmaid, My son, who is 10, is one of the ushers and he is also walking me down the aisle and the baby, who is 2 is going to my ringbearer. If his other two children are able to come up here, his daughter will be my flower girl and his son will be a part of the wedding as well.
Either way, my children are a part of my life. because my fiance will soon be a part of my life, we all need to do this together. We will be doing the unity candle and lighting it as a family. Because that is what we are becoming.
It isnt hard to include children, you just have have to know what would work best for them. As far as sitting at the head table- i see nothing wrong with that either. In the limo? No problem there either, Just make sure you and your new spouse have time to spend alone before you meet and greet with the guests so that you can unwind from the hecticness of the day.
2007-01-11 02:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me. Having them involved is great. Just have them do whatever feels comfortable to you and them. I think it's a cute idea to have them drive you away from the church. I see nothing wrong with any of it unless the bride is not real keen with it all. That is the only problem I would see. Then just agree on one or the other. Does she have kids? If so is she gonna include them too? Ya gotta make it fair. But if everyone is ok with it then have fun. Congrats and have a safe and happy wedding. Wish you the best.
2007-01-11 07:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by btyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine to have them as involved as you want. But to have them at the head table they need to be in the wedding party. Let them be bridesmaids and groomsmen or ringbearer and flowergirl. Riding from the church to the reception is fine in either case.
2007-01-11 07:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it certainly is okay. It's great that it's important to you that they share this special day with you.
If they're part of the bridal party (bridesmaids & groomsmen) they would be expected to sit at the head table and ride in the limo with the two of you.
Congratulations.
2007-01-11 09:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes please involve them fully in anything u do and give them some responsibilities
too... also make them feel comfortable aming the guests and introduce them nicely
to other people and ur future wife should give u a hand in doing this too...
dont let them feel like u r going away from them by getting married again...
make them feel important... u may be happy marrying again but most important
of all is still the happiness of those kids... gd luck...
2007-01-11 07:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children should be as involved as they want to be. If they are in agreement with being that involved then yes by all means have them that involved.
2007-01-11 08:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
100 precent---totally in all ways
2007-01-11 07:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be as long as your new husband agrees
2007-01-11 07:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋