a mourning tatoo ???

Question

my boyfriend died six months ago in a car crash and i have been unable to get over it. he was really keen on a tatoo but i never let him get one. i want to get one for myself in his memory and maybe the pain will help a little. any ideas on what and where?

PS: i have never had a tatooo before.

Answer 1

If you don't want words or anything, Cherry blossoms (Japanese flowers) are very nice, cherry blossoms have a nice meaning in the Japanese culture, the flower has a short life and while it is here it is pure are beautiful, and a fallen cherry blossom means a short lived life or a life that has been taken to young. My dad died very young and this is what I chose because of the meaning. I didn't want crosses or words but I wanted something with great meaning. Also the colours purple and yellow are nice too with purple meaning the dusk (or end of life) and yellow meaning dawn (the beginning of a new life)

Answer 2

Sorry for your lose, I have a memorial tattoo and if I could do it all over again I would get a nice little small one, I have a huge lucky traditional on my left arm with a friends name under it, now whenever anyone see's it they ask all these questions, they think its a boyfriend or something...If I were you I would get a nice lotus flower or little heart with a halo, maybe on your hipbone or something that just has initials in it so if anyone ever ask who's initials then you can just tell them rather you having the actual name on you.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a really touching thing to do for yourself, to help get through this, and to remember him by. I think you might want to avoid the date of his death, as it will always be a bad time for you anyway (that time of year). Why don't you think about what his deepest passion was? Or what was the ties that connected you two? Ask yourself these things, because you might want to stick with a tattoo that's a positive reminder of his life, & not a horrific tragedy.

Body modification is a good way to turn a negative into a positive by embracing that pain (literally) and having a beautiful reminder of something or someone who was near and dear to you.

A very close friend of mine burned to death in a fire, so I had a modification done in honor of her. It was for me, it was personal, & I never regretted it-11 years later.

Answer 4

I, too, am sorry for your loss. That being said, please take no offense in what I am about to say. Wait. Give yourself more time to mourn. Since tattoos are, for the most part, permanent, you would be doing yourself and the memory of your boyfriend a disservice to get something that you would later regret.

Let the pain in your heart ease, the memories come to the surface, and you'll make the right choice.

Answer 5

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my best friend 3 years ago in a car crash and was looking the internet for a picture of a tattoo to get in her honour when I came across your email.

My best friend loved star gazer lillies and I'm looking for a nice classy design of that, I would suggest to you to choose something your boyfriend loved, be it a band, football club, animal or something that will always remind you of him, then customise it to how you would like it to be.

I had a tattoo done about 10 years ago on my belly and they don't hurt.

Anyway, I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

what makes you think of your boyfriend? is there anything that you like that also gives you fond memories of him? it doesn't have to be something that people would traditionally think of as a memorial tattoo, or it could be. you could get a broken heart. or a swallow with a tear in her eye. i got a memorial tattoo last year. it is a skull which, of course sometimes represents death.
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the most important thing to remember is that you should research the tattoo artist that you are going to go to. since this is your first tattoo it is very important for you to go to someone who is talented and competent. not all tattooers are artists and not all tattooers are talented. some are just outright awful. if you have any questions feel free to email me.

Answer 7

I would make it a mixture of what he wanted and something that makes you think of him. I have one for my grandparents, and I would say yes the pain will help... any time that I have ever gone through a really rough time in my life I get one... and it always makes things a bit more bearable...

Actually I'm fixing to get one soon since my husband was deployed...

Answer 8

Maybe get"In loving memory,I will never forget you and his name in a heart.Get it where you feel comfortable.Do you want it to be a orivate thing or out in the open where people will bring it up and you'll have to constantly have to talk about it.Think carefully cause I've got some I totally regret.

Answer 9

first of all, i am very sad that u lost someone u loved. if there were any inside jokes or things that matter to u and him. when u get it, its gonna hurt, but talk to the tatoo person about ur bf or just thinkn of ur good memories

Answer 10

well I would say that everyone gets a cross for mourning tattoo's so I would say think of something that is a good memory of you and him together, maybe he gave you a nice flower one time, If It were me, I am pretty unoriginal so I would probably get a heart or a eternity symbol and have some small words saying something like forever in my heart....i dunno but It should reflect something about your relationship and your love for one another.