hi i need some help can you help out at all?

Question

i have low self esteem issues and lack of confidence ithink i look worse than the elephant man can you help me i have been called ugly and freak show and have had isults of kids in the street due tp my facial appearance i was also sexually abused as a kid thus giving me no confidence i really think im facial disfigurede due to past peoples comments etc can you visit me on uglynet to put me out of my mind serious answers please ive already tried to end my life due to how i look im not fishing for compliments i just need some help with the way i look i really think i look worse than the elephant man josph merrick some say i have body dysmorphia disorder but what i see in the mirror is true to me thanks kathy my name is uglywoman on uglynet

Answer 1

I've just checked out your photo and there's nothing wrong with you at all. I'm not just saying this to make you feel better, I'm being honest. You look like an attractive woman.

I think you need to ask your doctor to refer you to someone for some therapy. So that you can get some proffesional help about your self- esteem issues.

I can't believe you've actually registered yourself on uglynet.

And as for kids insulting you, believe me they'll insult anyone to get a kick. They'll just think up something to hurt someone, with no truth behind it, becasue they're kids.

The sooner you start feeling better about yourself, the more beautiful you'll be. :)

Answer 2

Hello........... I know that you said that you weren't fishing for compliments my friend, but I think that your picture on uglynet shows a pretty girl. I noticed that you were also smiling. This is what I noticed first. To have overcome abuse in your childhood and still come up smiling is the beautiful that no one can take from you. Those who would call you ugly or freak show are the ugly ones in my opinion. I wish you could look in the mirror and see what I see. I know that just me telling you that probably will have little effect on the way you see yourself, this is unfortunate. Have you ever spoken to a professional about any of your problems? The ugliness of the abuse you endured should be the subject you focus on,sweet girl. I too went through similar abuse as a young person. I had repressed these events and it was only recently that I remembered them. For years I wondered what was holding me back from being "happy" These types of things don't show on the outside,but on the inside I felt something lurking. I am glad that I can remember now, even though it has been difficult. Do not think of yourself as anything but beautiful, you won't win any ugly contests. Take it easy on yourself.......and take your pretty face to the doctor, extract some of that darkness which lurks below the surface. They can do that nowadays, you know........and for heaven's sake Laugh out Loud everyday!

Answer 3

Seriously flower... when I read your question I though it might be some kind of joke and expected to visit the site and see some picture of the elephant man or something, I was shocked to see a perfectly normal 34 year old looking back at me. Honestly, you may not be some kind of goddess or anything but believe me I know people who are much much more ugly than you (and one of them is about to get married...go figure)

Trust me on this eat healthily, do some exercise, go out and buy some new clothes, and get some make up advice, then you will feel better about your self

You are really not that ugly!!!!

Answer 4

hmm I just looked at Uglynet for the first time and I am horrified that people would refer to themselves in such a way. Most people have some issue with self image but to call yourself ugly I don't get. I feel ugly at times as I am sure most people do but from looking at your photo you are not remotely unattractive. In fact, nice teeth, great skin, two eyes, a nose and a mouth which all appears to be where it should be.... where is the ugly you speak about? I think if you have feelings like this you should see someone and talk about it as they maybe able to help you see what is really there and not what you think is there.

Answer 5

The first thing is to not believe what others have said and done they don't define you. Next ask the person you love the most what they think. And gather all the positive you can out of life,Even you have to create it. Tell someone else they look nice. As for the abuse there is no easy answer except DON"T let it define you or your future. And the main thing is to find a higher power than yourself to lean on. One who will never let go. I think you know who. That's the only place to find healing of the heart. From someone who knows! I wouldn't be able to write these things otherwise. And I will remeber you today.

Answer 6

Tricky one. you could try this method which can have good results. Stand in front of the mirror with you eyes shut. Open them, stare deeply into the eyes infront of you and say with absolute and total conviction. "You are beautiful. You are the most gorgeous and beautiful woman in the world." The only flaw you may come across is if you suffer from low self esteem you may not believe yourself so you have to be convincing.

It may sound lame but beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Just watch extreme makeover a few times. How often does the partner of the person who society accepts is so ugly that major surgery is the only option say "I think s/he is absolutely beautiful as s/he is, but if it makes him/her happy."

It doesn't really matter what we tell you though, your healing must come from within, you have to come to terms with how you look whether you are the ugliest or the most beautiful person in the world.

Answer 7

You are NOT ugly!!! It sounds like you do, indeed, have a form of dysmorphia disorder mainly due to others' cruelty and callousness. People can be sick. Seek therapy so that you can regain your self-esteem and stop beating yourself up. Don't let others use your own insecurities against you any longer. I wish you well.

Answer 8

from what I seen you don't look ugly - maybe a lil on the heavy side but thats a easy fix - don't let people control how you feel about your self you are the begining of you and everyone else comes after - and please forget the idea that plastic surgery will changed everything - if you hate yourself in the inside changing the outside will not help

Answer 9

Look in the mirror girl and tell yourself I love you every morning and night .your a good person maybe you could visit people that are less fortunate than you. Good Luck

Answer 10

What r u looking to hear? People on this site are usually rude late. I would like to help you but I can't and noone else can either. You are sad. You may be drinking. (dude, your typing) You might need to think positive. This is the kind of response that I get thumbs down for.