On answering a recent question of how many times a week I have sex with my husband I said that we try and put some time aside twice a week to get some alone time. This does not generally mean sex but it is guaranteed mom and dad alone time,occasionally leading to sex or saucy foreplay. I credit this decision on both our parts, for the reason we have such a healthy and stimulating relationship with7kids and 15yrs of marriage.
With 7kids finding that kind of time is almost impossible without MAKING the time. Our kids living at home are 14,12,5,3&17months.
Is it bad that we put them aside twice/week to make some time for ourselves. My husband is a stay at home dad so we generally have all the kids in bed w/lights out by 8 o clock at least one night during the week and at the weekend the older 2 are usually with friends so we get the younger three in bed by half 7 which is normal for them anyway.
We both spend a lot of time with our kids in general,is this unfair?
2007-01-10 22:17:42 · 7 answers · asked by strictmom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We have been married just about 10 years and we have 3 children. We spend a lot of time with the kids, but we aren't above putting them in front of a video to give us time for a little something. We usually wait until the kids are asleep, but sometimes we get lucky and they are occupied long enough for a quickie.
I stay home with the kids, and I know they are well taken care of and have plenty of attention.
2007-01-11 02:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We hardly spend anytime together - except when our son (3) is in bed, but we have made a resolution to start going out more / having some 'us' time - as it shows a good healthy relationship that hopefully our son will pick up on and then use as role models for when he is older. Now I am pregnant with our 2nd however, this isnt going to be as easy as first expected as I have had bad sickness - however, its not been forgotten, just rain checked - imagine when your children leave and your left alone with your partner - it is possible you will grow apart and then the relationship will end!!
2007-01-11 06:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is unfair to you. Your kids aren't going to love you less if you are taking time for yourselves. By their ages it sounds like you have some built in babysitters as well for times you want to go out. Your entire life cannot revolve around entertaining your kids. You need sanity time for your own sake and well being. I'm sure your children appreciate the vast amount of time you spend with them. Do not ever feel bad for taking time for yourself especially at most of their ages. Probably at 12 14 and 17 I'm sure they want their own time as well. (you know the whole teen individuality thing) its probably good for them as well. So in closing, take some time for you for your own sake!
2007-01-11 06:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by prophetfxb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you for finding the way to spend sometime with your husband. This is very important to the couple's relation. I would suggest finding once a week, maybe, to go out for coffee, just the two of you. Your elder kids are old enough to babysit for you.
2007-01-11 07:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you're taking time to yourselves. That keeps the marriage strong! Don't feel bad or guilty. Actually it's best that you give yourself time away to rejuevenate and relax. Most importantly...we get on our kids nerves too... THINK ABOUT THAT?? They need breaks from us just as we need breaks from them. Especially with the teens/tweens....... You're fine. Enjoy it!
2007-01-11 09:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Porter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a drive and do it in the car, then get back home. You can say you went shopping
2007-01-11 06:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's fair. Good on you. Your kids would thrive off your great relationship. I envy you.
2007-01-11 07:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋