Honestly I just don't like her. We've only been going out for a month. when she said she liked me I thought I'd give her a chance but I'm really just not attracted to her at all. I think it's fun to be with her and our mutual friends, but I just don't want to kiss her, or have sex with her or anything, and I especially dread kissing her in public places. I really am not a firm believer in "lets just be friends" I think the other person always takes it the wrong way. I doubt that would work, even though it'd be ideal. There's not even another girl that I like better, just not her. Any ideas?
2007-01-10 22:17:18 · 25 answers · asked by mwells0629 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we go to the same school, same department same class, and she sits next to me in that class for 3 hours a day so i can't make an awkward relationship out of this, and i don't want to lose the friends that i've made through her.
2007-01-10 22:18:09 · update #1
I'm not in high school, I'm in college.
2007-01-10 22:22:17 · update #2
I guess that it would be a lot easier if she goes to different school.But she doesn't so the best thing to do is to say that you are not in love with here and that this relationship is not going to work.Or you can always lie!: )))))Good luck!
2007-01-10 22:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Chupawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to say anything. Be cool and speak less to her. Do not be impolite. If she asks you about going together politely refuse it and give a hint of not continuing the relationship. You will still continue to be friends. She will definitely understand the position and will also play it cool. At least this will avoid the embarrassment of saying it on the face. Be a good school partner. In this world no one is fool and the other person can very easily sense that you are not interested.
2007-01-11 06:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is your time to be smooth. Either you let this draw out forever, OR, you seriously takes steps through your close and good friends to put her out. you know the deal. Most importantly, keep all the serious stuff outside of school.. But when you're at school, just make decisions baseed on what your friends might be seeing - take advice and run with it! It's really only up to you to make certain this girl hits the history books and not a stud much like yourself. so if you want to keep your hopes UP, find ways to distract her while at school, and get serious when school is out. just prepare yourself for the words and the moment you are ready to go forth and SELL it to HER straight OUT!
just do it *with class*
2007-01-11 06:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu have just said everything.Tell her that you need her but something changed in you and you perhaps don't want relationships for some time.
Still, no matter you would do or say-that would hurt greatly.
Tell her as carefully as you can. And prove that you are a good friend. Sometimes a boyfriend may break up and talk and talk much to lessen the pain - talking helps us girls a lot for some reasons.
2007-01-11 06:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Natalya Ch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest now before things go on too long and become even more awkward. Tell her u really enjoy her company but just don't have any romantic feelings towards her, maybe she will respect ur honesty. U cannot make urself love someone so it is pointless carrying on a relationship where u have no feelings for ur partner.
2007-01-11 06:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have went through it before, and i would just do the "Friends Thing" for awhile. and if it doesn't work like you are wanting it to. Just lay everything out on the table and tell her how you feel. That's the best thing you can do with a girl, and in a new relationship.
2007-01-11 06:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow man, u have quite a dilemma. and i thought i am the only one with problems. well, whatever u do, just never ever tell her that u do not want to kiss her in public places. she will hate u for this and make your life miserable. i suggest u don't say her anything at all. just disengage yourself - try not to talk with her alone, if she says let's hang out after school say u re busy, when u re with her and her friends try talk more to friends, do not talk with her person to person. if she is not dumb completely she will understand the hint and leaves u alone. i hope. and u will still remain friends with her friends
2007-01-11 06:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her like it is and profusely apolo- lie (apologize even if you don't feel bad about it) . Talk with her and let her know that you like her more as a friend and that you don't want to mess up the relationship, but you just can't commit to a serious one with her because of liking her as a friend. Tell her that you don't want to loose the friendship over it.You enjoy her company, and would like her to still come around, and please don't be mad at me.
2007-01-11 06:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act bored n start an argument with a small lil things till she gets very angry ..n you can then say to break up . i know this isnt such a nice way and that coming from a gal is ..bad ....but you r in a difficult situation :S and will hurt the gal even more if u were to simply tell her that you didnt even like her from the beginning ...
2007-01-11 06:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its awkward indeed but sometimes we have do deal with such. if u really break up thn u must say this on her face straight. if u feel nervous thn write a letter to her. she will never knw this untill u tell her. so be strong and do it. u can take help of little alcohol as well bt within limit. best of luck
2007-01-11 06:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kabir Anand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋