I want to leave my life, don't you think in my case it's OK?

Question

I'm 14, some months ago I did some bad stuff I regret. I guess I was emotionally lost, something like that, but the fact I did wrong things. I was mean to my sister, was jealous. In the end there were hard consequences, I got punished, went through some hard days. Today those things are over, I even did a lot of good things to make up for my mistakes, but I can't forget wht happened. I'm emotionally destroyed, something broke inside me. I can say I'm "clean" in the sense no one is suffering any bad con sequence of my acts, but I can't forget. Leaving with my parents became a nightmare, not because they didn't forgive me, but I can't forget they were harsh on me, I understand them but can't see them as loving parents any more. They bring about terrible memories and this is forever, though they even say they are proud of me. I d'nt think I deserve to be punished like that, since I made up for my mistakes I think it's OK I get out of the hell my life became.

Answer 1

At 14, you don't have the experience to truely make this decision. I know you don't believe me. That's because I use to be 14, and when I was, I didn't believe anybody else either. That's OK. That's natural. But trust me, a few bad months is no reason to "leave your life." And believe me because the past few years of my life have been miserable. But I press on. We all do. Life is hard. Life gets harder. But at the same time, it gets better. It becomes more enjoyable. Honey tastes sweeter to those lips accustomed to bitter tastes.

If you're still having trouble, it always helps to talk to somebody neutral. These type of forums are a good way to get your feelings out. There are depression hotlines (1-800-SUICIDE) with people standing by, for free, just waiting to talk.

It's ok to want to leave your life, God knows, I've wanted to for a very long time. It's natural to feel overwhelmed, there's nothing wrong with it. But you never know what tommorrow will bring you, and it's always worth it to wake up the next day and find out what life is going to give you.

Answer 2

Okay, you're going to hear alot of this, but really..you're 14, everyone's life sucks at 14. If every unhappy 14 year old killed themselves, there wouldn't be any 15 year olds.

You screwed up, you admit that. Okay. You got punished. Obviously, you deserved to be punished. You feel your parents were over the top on the punishment. This is also normal. They may have been, but the reality is...you screwed up..you got punished...and it seems to be over for them. They're apparently giving you the benefit of the doubt. It sounds like you need to give them the benefit of the doubt, and give yourself a second chance.

One of the things that being a teenager is all about is making mistakes and learning from them. This is so you have a good, sensible foundation to work from as an adult. It all seems so unfair right now, and useless. It's just the time of your life when you learn some of the harder things. It gets better. Really.

Hang in there.

Answer 3

A friend of mine once told me "the chicken's are the ones with the way out"
I ran away from home, did drugs, drank, cussed out my mother, got 2 black eyes from my dad, kicked my older sister's butt, and many other stupid things I regret. I got beating's Literally, tried calling the cops on them too, the cops didn't care of course, and I slapped my mother across the face because I was right and she wasn't. Got married young, had a kid, then, tried taking my life, and I laid there I realized that if I gave up, I would be the only one loosing, not them.
So, I have divorced the *** I married, 2yrs later I married a wonderful man, and I have another child on the way.
My father told me that I was daddy little girl, even though he tried not to pick favorites, and my mom is still wrong and come to me for advice all the time.
I really don't know why you asked this question, because at your age its not gonna matter what anyone else says it will be up to you, and you know that too.
I hope that you wouldn't deprive your friends of your company, they will miss you ya know. And, What about the chance your wanting to throw away. You may become the next teen Idol, who knows?
Good Luck, don't let them win...try try again.

Answer 4

Forgive yourself. it's good to regret what you did that was bad.
You have to forget what happened - it's over. don't do it again.

You may or may not have deserved to be punished as harshly as you were but don't forget that it brought you to your senses. How do you think you made them feel when you were doing the bad stuff? Living with your bad stuff was their worst nightmare.

Your parents deserve to be thanked for saving you from yourself. Whatever they had to do to get your attention. Just talk to them.

Ask your sister to forgive you, ask as many times as you hurt her.

Ask your parents to forgive you and let them know how you feel.

Now forgive your parents for being harsh on you. it's not their fault you have terrible memories because of your bad stuff.

They obviously did a decent job of raising you - it sounds like your heart is in the right place - it is OK to forgive yourself - ask them.

Answer 5

The sad truth is you haven't finished paying for the things you did wrong. Even though your family, including you sister forgives you a price is still being paid because you don't forgive yourself. This is a good thing. You have morals. You know what you did was wrong and deeply and sincerely regret it. To me that says one thing very clearly. YOU ARE REDEEMABLE. You can make this life you see as soiled and worthless something much more valuable. There is an old Christian saying you may have heard and even if you are not a Christian yourself (Comment not criticism) you might be able to fit it to your needs. Jesus died for us so that we may live for him.
Spend some time doing something you feel is worthwhile until you feel that you are again worthy of the love your family has for you.

Answer 6

When your parents punished you, it doesnt mean they hate you, they just try to remind you with their way, if you dont agree with them, try to talk to them.., nicely..., dont talk with high voice tone or emotion. they are you parents, your mom who give you birth, your dad who work hard to give your family a living. dont made their heart crying because of your anger. Put your self in their position.

Running away from your live is not a good answer, you have to face you life. Take every mistake and succesfull things as your life lesson.

dont create a new porblem to solve you current problems..., it'll never ends

Answer 7

OK I can see a young teenager with a bit rebellion got punished by her parents who love their daughter so much. And now the teenager thinks of something stupid and obviously she is a bit overreacting on things. Let me tell you, what you are going thru means nothing in your life, probably you would forget about this when you grow up, because lie ahead in front of you there are lots of other things which can even bother you a hundred times more, and today what you face is not even a tiny issue in your life. Because lying ahead you have to make great decision in your life, you gonna to have baby, to raise a child, to fall in love, to fall out of love, to develop a family, to build up your own career. I don't see why now you have to bother for what you are bothering now, so you better save your energy and enjoy being loved by your wonderful family who love you so much and get ready for the real big thing in life coz they are fun.

Answer 8

Just think from your parents view. Will they be happy to see you dead. If you were in their place U would have done the same thing what they did. Just think about your future (may be life after 10 years)... U have a bright future infront of you... Attain it and enjoy...

Answer 9

You are NOT your mistakes.