Short story
1>In love with 35 year old divorced, 3 kids woman bipolar (supposed). Am having sex with her
2>She is in love with a man who lives with his girlfriend
3>She is also sleeping around with other men
4>I have told her i love her want to take her out for meals etc
5>She said no, she is in love with other man who lives with girlfriend
6>It's tearing me apart to see her giving herself away so easily with 3 kids at home and even though I treated her the best out of all of them and didn't cheat on her she still loves the one with treats her like s**t
7>I'm tempted to tell unavailable man she is sleeping around but don't think I will, as this would be pathetic
2007-01-10 21:07:15 · 7 answers · asked by SDF S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think "nuclear waste" toxic . . . will be dangerous for eons! You're crazy if you pursue that. Good luck with the next one!
2007-01-10 21:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that does sound toxic to me. You cannot make this woman love you if she won't. That's just the way it is. Yes it is sad that she is behaving so irresponsibly when she has 3 kids, but she is a grownup and it is not your responsibility to fix her life for her. If she is truly bipolar, she probably has alot of internal problems she doesn't even want to confront. I dated a bipolar guy once, and it was very, very stressful, to say the least. They're especially difficult to reason with when they won't take their meds or deal with the problem properly.
In my opinion, I think you would be best to move on with your life, and try to forget about this woman, despite your feelings for her. Sometimes we love people who are not good for us, especially if we have our own problems with ourselves (such as self-esteem) that we are not dealing with. It will be hard to forget her at first, but you should keep going on with your life the best you can. Spend time with your friends or siblings. Go out and do fun things together. Call them whenever you have an overwhelming urge to talk to this woman you are in love with. Spend time focusing on YOU and doing things to make YOU better and happy. Spend time on your interests and hobbies, even if it is difficult. Eventually you will find that you don't think of her anymore, and maybe you will even find someone who is much better, and loves you back.
And on a completely practical side, it is very dangerous to be having sex with someone who has so many other partners! You could end up with all sorts of nasty VD, or worse, something incurable like HIV or Hep C.
Dont waste your time with the wrong woman when the right one is out there looking for you, too.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 05:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nelly Wetmore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation and I can tell you are deeply in love with this woman. She needs medication for her condition, it can make a big difference. Also encourage some kind of therapy if possible (for the kids sake). Is she refuses to do either or shows no sign of wanting to improve herself - move on, life is too short.
2007-01-11 05:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave her to it... Especially if she is in love with this other guy and not interested in you for anything but sex (like the other guys)... Find yourself someone else that will appreciate the effort...
2007-01-11 05:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find yourself another broad buddy, that one is playing the loosy goosy game, and youre just putting yourself threw hell and back sticking around ..To answer youre question, YES, sounds very toxic.
2007-01-11 05:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a casual fling, as your in love with her and she loves someone else. You are giving yourself what you think your worthy of and no one else can make that decision for you.
2007-01-11 05:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by michelle_in_aus2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eject! get out of there now. You already know this in your head, but your heart is screwing things up. This is a good time to listen to your head.
2007-01-11 05:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by tps20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋