I was in love with this man whom I had known for a month after making all sorts of connections. He blocked on all my communications around a month back and never replied to any of my e-mails or messages. I received an e-mail last night saying he is no more interested in listening to my 'stories' and that we should never be in contact again. My major concern is that I had an uprotected sex with him 3 weeks back and now am hell scared for whether he had some nasty infection? Have got myself checked for all possibilited except for AIDS! Please help me, maybe its just an overactive imagination of my mind. But why would this person stop in such an abrupt manner when all was going fairly well? Should I reply to his e-mail or not?
2007-01-10 21:03:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should respond with the utmost dignity and then leave it at that.
If you can fit it into one line, all the better.
"Thank you for your email. I agree that we should not communicate any further."
Or something like that. Dignity is your best weapon (and will frustrate him no end.)
I agree with the others who suggest that he may be married or have a girlfriend. As such he should be avoided like the plague. I am certain you can do better than someone who would mess you around like this.
As probably others will say... please don't have unprotected sex! You're most probably fine, but you should get checked out in six months to be sure. Just because people seem nice at the time doesn't mean that they haven't got an STD. Hell, they could be nice and STILL have an STD. Best to protect yourself!
Look on this as a life lesson well earned, and move on with your life. And remember, when one door closes, another opens. This isn't the end of the world! You will be happy again, I promise.
2007-01-10 21:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Greta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt bother replying, the guy is obviously a jerk. Replying isnt going to change anything or make you feel any better, just move on and forget about him. As for the unprotected sex, you are not the first person to make a mistake. You have done all you can for now. You have the 3 month window period, but you can get tested now, just do it again after 3 months. Technology has gotten better the window period is just a precaution.
2007-01-10 21:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him be. If you continue to try and contact you he may get a restraining order and you start to sound like the crazy ex girlfriend. Block his email! Do it now so you will not try to contact him. You seem to have attachment issues..you loved him after 1 month? See a counsiler, get a new hair cut and a new outfit and get a new man. He used to to eather get back at his ex or he jsut wanted sex from you and he dumped you because he was finished with you. Guys are jerks sometimes for no apparent reason.
2007-01-10 21:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caramel is spot-on. Reply to him with confident dignity and forget all about him.
BTW, if you told him you loved him after a month it might explain the abrupt ending. Some of us blokes can get a little, let's say, 'anxious' when things get heavy quickly. Never mind though, you live and learn.
2007-01-10 21:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by PvteFrazer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! dont give him the soot of it hun - the worst form of rejection is ignoring them - if you take the time out to reply to him then he'll be delighted as you still made contact even after he rejected you - it will hurt him much more if you dont even acknowledge his email.
With regards to infections - Im sure theres nothing to worry about - why dont you just get an aids test to put your mind at rest.
And for future reference - use protection hun!!! I know its easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment - but its not worth it when youfeel worry like this for weeks after! xx
2007-01-10 21:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting yourself into a state over nothing really - you don't have an infection and the relationship is dead in the water so please just LET IT GO! Do not contact him again and do not give him another moment's thought. In a few weeks you will wonder what all the fuss was about.
2007-01-10 21:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont contact him again, let it go. If you do make contact he might have you done for harrassment. Maybe he was married, had a girlfriend, kids etc and he was falling for you and got scared. Dont beat yourself up about him, move on and if he wants you back he will make contact. As the saying goes, if you love someone set them free, if they come back theyre yours if they dont they never were. Good luck
2007-01-10 21:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't reply, just stop having sex for 6 months, go get urself tested now and then again in 6 months.
Do u really think he'd tell u the truth anyways?
2007-01-10 21:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had yourself checked and all is clear, I would not worry about that part, maybe if you have sent lots of emails he found it a little "suffocating" and has had to be blunt with you that he wants no further contact.
I would accept that he has called it a day and move on hun x
2007-01-10 21:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what stories have you been telling...... because that is the reason that he broke up with you.....
And just because he is a bad person..... Doesnt mean he has AIDs.....
I too have a over active imagination .....and it get's me into all sorts of trouble.....
I suggest that you forget about him and move on.....Good luck
2007-01-10 21:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋