How can i let him down gently?

Question

Ok, tbh, we only communicate over email now. He's not rung me for weeks, though he sometimes comes on msn to talk to me.

He is quite sensitive though, and i think it would be harsh to break up with him on email. However, it seems mean on the phone too (but i havent seen him for a good few weeks, we've both been too busy so dont want to meet up, get his hopes up then break up) so im not really sure what to do.

- and what should i say, to be as considerate as possible?

Thanks

Answer 1

Honesty is always the best policy, if your relationship is not going anywhere then tell him that you would like to remain friends but any other kind of relationship is over, if you can't meet up then the only other way is by phone or alternatively, you could break it gently to him in a letter. They say you have to be cruel to be kind !!!

Answer 2

Yes, it would be harsh to break up on the e-mail. Try and arrange a meeting, gently explain to him the reason of why you cant continue - wishing him all the best and leave amicably without any hard feelings.

Answer 3

he is been insensitive by not phoning you. why don't you call him and say you both have to talk about this relationship. just tell him things are not working and until you both have time for each other it is best to leave things. maybe in time you will have the time to see each other. but you are stopping either of you from moving forward by not ending things if that is really what you want to do.

Answer 4

The longer you wait the worst it will get. You have to be honest with him. No matter what you say his feelings are going to be hurt. Sometimes, though, you have to put your feelings first. Just be classy about it but be honest at the same time. Don't pull the it's not you it's me crap. Just tell him how you feel and sooner or later he will forgive you.

Answer 5

I think he knows it is over- finish it now- by whatever means. It will hurt him but such is life. Nothing you can say will make him feel any better- Just finish it and don't try and remain friends etc. If he still has feelings for you than he will be confused by this and it will hurt him more. If that is unacceptable you can recontact him and become friends again.

Answer 6

I think the whole thing has run its course, and thats why you not seeing him at the mo. Or do you both have such busy lives that you cant get together?
Maybe ask him outright where he sees this going and take it from there, you might find he is thinking the same thing!

Answer 7

blimey if u are only emailing each other and only communicate that way then do it by email or msn. but is there anything to finish in the first place?

Answer 8

Speak from your heart, be honest, open and specific. (i.e. don't say 'the problem is with me' - tell him what the problem is). Don't raise your voice but do leave him in no doubt as to where he stands.
You are right not to want to get his hopes up, explain this to him - its hard but its the most loving thing you can do for anyone and he will thank you for it.

good luck

Answer 9

The most gentile thing you can do is be completely honest. It will hurt him more to string him along, play games, etc. Make the time to see him in person if you want to be considerate, if you care...

Answer 10

JUST DO IT, if he loves you, he would not has done those, i mean like not see you for weeks, and merely msn email stuff, appreantly, hes losing feelings bout you , So dont think too much. yourself comes first. love yourself more always. :)