He is eleven years old and moody. He often contradicts me, he throws a wobbly when things dont go his way, he eats too much, but he can also be very loving and thoughtfull. Is this a typical 11year old boy?
2007-01-10 20:21:17 · 29 answers · asked by Shelljoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think all kids are like that now. Even from 3 years and up. Hopefuly he'll grow out of it.
2007-01-10 20:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by I know nothing! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if there is such a thing as a typical 11 year old. Sounds like he just needs a little more structure and awareness around how to behave.
He must have picked up the idea that the best way to get what he wants is to put his parts on - he must have picked that up from you, but it's never too late to make a change. Lead by example.
Same with food, if he eats too much make sure he gets more exercise and does activities with YOU. The more time you spend together the better things will get.
2007-01-11 04:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by chillipope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, this is typical of children when they turn 10. Half way between sweet boylet (a term my son coined) and teenage, they feel they have rights. But when you ask them what rights they want, they can't say exactly. My son is also very loving and thoughtful at times, when he is in his boylet character. That is when he gets his praises and hugs.
Best way I think is to ignore him when he throws tantrums, go about your own things, pretend you don't see it and don't respond to him, after a while he will forget it and become cheerful again when his favourite TV show comes on or when he decides to go and play.
So far, it has been manageable, not distressing for me!
My son eats too much too, 3 full meals and 2 snacks, he has been overweight for 5 years. But we try not to hurt his pride, just tell him to stop eating snacks by giving this smart boylet all the medical facts about the ill effects of junk food, but never saying that being fat will make people laugh at him or no girls will like him when he grows up. You will be surprised at this age they know lots of science stuff.
2007-01-11 04:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by IKnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think that jason li has hit the nail on the head - your boy sounds spoiled. Set some boundaries regarding tantrums (not a 'wobbly' - that's too patronising) and monitor his diet. It sounds like he may be comfort-eating as that is indeed not typical for an 11 year old. Try to find out what is going on in his life that may be upsetting him but he must realise that he cannot treat you this way as you are a person, too. He needs more structure in his life - don't be afraid to provide it as it will, in the long term, make him feel more secure and thus, happier.
2007-01-11 04:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he has just started behaving like this...then he is simply started adulecence early (puberity). This is very interesting...when a child goes from being a child through adulecence the brain starts to re-wire itself...meaning their ability to communicate their feelings can suffer severly as a result....you will notice that well preformed sarcasm is totally missed by them....saying something simple can be misinterpreted, becuase the emotional part of the brain is undergoing a major change....hence adulecence is a time in a childs life when psychosis can first reveal itself...dont worry I am not saying your child is psychotic...the risk is very low...but what I am saying is that the re-wiring that is going on in your kids head is a fundemental part of the change between child to adult...it can and does occure early like 11 yrs old...and is important....lets just hope the adulecence phase is a short one...only a couple of years....it could be bad...like mine that went on and on and on....Man, I was a right moody little tyke for agess.
2007-01-11 04:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by michael s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is this typical of an 11 year old boy, but it is also typical of a boy in general. You can breathe a small sigh of relief. It is likely to be just a phase. My brother went through that phase from about 12-15 but after that, he was fine. He is now 20, very productive, civil, intelligent, sweet and rational. It just goes under "boys will be boys." They are known to break bones and have one or two fights because of their defiance but most of them get over it. He just has his moments. Also be aware, that he is pushing your limits like any child would do. Although its a normal phase, try not to let him get out of hand because this could be bad for you and you could lose control as the parent. Keep him within some type of discipline and awareness.
2007-01-11 04:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find some people are just naturally difficult. Its probebly something to do with boundries. When dealing with people if we keep in mind that they respond to rewards and shy away from punishment. A reward can be a smile a Laugh or the classic sweeties or that new game. At some stage hes probably been rewarded for bad Behavior repeatedly, and now he is programmed to get his own way by misbehaving. If you can afford it a Child Pschologist mught be able to diagnose the area at fault so that you can correct your behavior and thus his.
Back to the people being difficult, it may just be your sons lot to be rude and willful, I meet people like that all the time. You just have to be patiant and try to explain what he's doing wrong, and don't be afraid to calmly repeat it. Anyway. Best of Luck.....
2007-01-11 04:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by graliv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way when I was younger. My parents described me as going through my teens when I was eight.
I wouldn't worry. I wouldn't medicate him. Although I do sympathize. I was a pretty hellacious kid at that age and nearly drove my parents crazy.
On the plus side, I mellowed out A LOT by the time I hit my teens. I was more open with my parents. I told them about everything, drugs, alcohol, sex. Whatever was going on. So if my past performance is any indication of your son's future, He'll be a good kid after all. Although he sounds perfectly normal to me now.
Cheers, all the luck
2007-01-11 05:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by AbbeyDLaurence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is love i had to sort my grandson out last night .i had to tell him some home truths when you get the tears in theirs eyes just say what are they for big boys dont cry or are you a big boy because little boys get sent to their rooms to calm down so if thats the way you want it thats the option but remember who are the people that try to support you when thing go wrong dont bite the hand that feeds you. turn away let it sink in . if an appology does not come from it just calmly say when you have got off the pedasill and can talk properly then talk or your room would be the safest place at this present time but remember dont shout it . they hate it when any one talks quietly.
2007-01-11 04:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about it. I have got an 11 year old son who is somewhat replicating the same mannerisms as your child is doing. They are in a transition phase from the pre-teens to teens so we should be patient but at the same time not give up to their tantrums and remind them of their boundaries. Keep talking and be friendly to him and don't overreact to his behaviour. It will go away but we should deal with love, respect and care at the same time. If possible, engage him in other constructive activities and be a part of them. Hope this helps, all the best.
2007-01-11 04:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hormones i have six kids , 3 of those teenagers ages 13, 15, 17 and believe me i know what you been .It could also be what he eats but mine would eat junk food 24 /7 if i let them.I would love to say it gets better but it dont lol. Your lucky its a boy and not a girl there worse. It just a part of growing up .
2007-01-11 06:05:48 · answer #11 · answered by denise t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋